Hi all..please help me regarding this matter , I am going through for 6 yrs. I got married 6 yrs ago, I was 23 & he was 31.even though I had objection in my mind regarding much age diff between me & him, my parents convinced me about his having good job, character etc..so I agrred got married. but since the day I got married, I felt like I am 28 yrs old & I lost my all youthness.I felt like I have got married to an old guy. even now also I feel the same way..I know it is sin to think like that..but I can't help it.I love him, but same time I worry about his age.we don't have chidren yet.Is there is any solution for my problem ??..is it normal to have age diff like me & my hubby has??..b'coz I don't see much couples having age diff like us.
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Hi all..please help me regarding this matter , I am going through for 6 yrs. I got married 6 yrs ago, I was 23 & he was 31.even though I had objection in my mind regarding much age diff between me & him, my parents convinced me about his having good job, character etc..so I agrred got married. but since the day I got married, I felt like I am 28 yrs old & I lost my all youthness.I felt like I have got married to an old guy. even now also I feel the same way..I know it is sin to think like that..but I can't help it.I love him, but same time I worry about his age.we don't have chidren yet.Is there is any solution for my problem ??..is it normal to have age diff like me & my hubby has??..b'coz I don't see much couples having age diff like us.
pearl replied. HI sujata ,
I completely understand your situation me and my Hubby have an age gap of 16 Yrs !!!! I'm 23 yrs now and my hubby is hiiting 40 yrs now ! I completely feel iam a 35 Yr old woman , i worry every single day and evry night abt this and i have also posted my case in here for some advice and comfort that i can have and sleep well !
Pearl
juvinile replied. I have one thing to say about it. Since there is a good amount of age difference between you two. he will love you more had the difference been less or of the same age. It is male mentality to protect the young and care for the young. His ego remains in tact and he will care for you like a child. If you dont agree to this point then please reply. thanks
Vani replied. Hi,
I agree with both \";ss\"; and \";Indian housewife\";. You must understand that the differences in age are only what you make of it. You may look at your interests and his and find a lot of differences. Some may be age related, some not.
Remember all the things you love about your husband and hold on to that when you begin thinking about the age difference.
Yes...if you are to start a family, now is the time...because of your age now.
I think it's also a wonderful experience for a couple in love to have together.
Also, think of if you would have married a boy your age...if he had of been 23 and you also...that would have been probably even more complicated. Women are usually a lot more mature than a guy the same age.
Take care dear and don't let your husband sense your issues on this matter, it would be hurtful.
ss replied. Hi Sujatha
There might be difference in interests, like you going out he doesn't maybe that is why you feel this way. What do you think you have lost because of the age difference. You can get him interested in things you like to do, ask him to join in activities you like.
If you both love each other and he is good to you that is what matters right. Not meaning to pry in your private life but this is a good time to have children. Since you are approaching 30 and it is advisable to have at least 1 child before the woman turns 30 for mediacal reasons. That will also bring a new charm and dimension to your relationship.
Indian HouseWife replied. Hi Sujatha,
I am very sorry that you undergo this. But have you ever thought of the other side? You haven't said anything about his character. So I assume he is on the good side. So whats the problem? Even though you have 7-8 years age difference between you two, if it gives you a good life, you have to accept that. Between my husband and me, there is a 6 years age difference. He loves me more than anything in this world. Thats what matters to me. I don't say that you should marry a person of 10-20 years older just because of the person's character. But what I am saying is, if your fate lands you in such a situation, and if you love your husband and he loves you, as long as you are happy with each other then age difference should not play a part of villain here.
Don't make things up and worry..Just live your life. Its a happy one, Ok?
Good Luck!
2004-06-11
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Name: pearl Subject: Worst case than yours !
HI sujata ,
I completely understand your situation me and my Hubby have an age gap of 16 Yrs !!!! I'm 23 yrs now and my hubby is hiiting 40 yrs now ! I completely feel iam a 35 Yr old woman , i worry every single day and evry night abt this and i have also posted my case in here for some advice and comfort that i can have and sleep well !
Pearl
2003-11-01
#2
Name: juvinile Subject: reply
I have one thing to say about it. Since there is a good amount of age difference between you two. he will love you more had the difference been less or of the same age. It is male mentality to protect the young and care for the young. His ego remains in tact and he will care for you like a child. If you dont agree to this point then please reply. thanks
2003-08-27
#3
Name: Vani Subject: I just wanted to add
Hi,
I agree with both \";ss\"; and \";Indian housewife\";. You must understand that the differences in age are only what you make of it. You may look at your interests and his and find a lot of differences. Some may be age related, some not.
Remember all the things you love about your husband and hold on to that when you begin thinking about the age difference.
Yes...if you are to start a family, now is the time...because of your age now.
I think it's also a wonderful experience for a couple in love to have together.
Also, think of if you would have married a boy your age...if he had of been 23 and you also...that would have been probably even more complicated. Women are usually a lot more mature than a guy the same age.
Take care dear and don't let your husband sense your issues on this matter, it would be hurtful.
2003-08-27
#4
Name: ss Subject: forget it
Hi Sujatha
There might be difference in interests, like you going out he doesn't maybe that is why you feel this way. What do you think you have lost because of the age difference. You can get him interested in things you like to do, ask him to join in activities you like.
If you both love each other and he is good to you that is what matters right. Not meaning to pry in your private life but this is a good time to have children. Since you are approaching 30 and it is advisable to have at least 1 child before the woman turns 30 for mediacal reasons. That will also bring a new charm and dimension to your relationship.
2003-08-27
#5
Name: Indian HouseWife Subject: Hi
Hi Sujatha,
I am very sorry that you undergo this. But have you ever thought of the other side? You haven't said anything about his character. So I assume he is on the good side. So whats the problem? Even though you have 7-8 years age difference between you two, if it gives you a good life, you have to accept that. Between my husband and me, there is a 6 years age difference. He loves me more than anything in this world. Thats what matters to me. I don't say that you should marry a person of 10-20 years older just because of the person's character. But what I am saying is, if your fate lands you in such a situation, and if you love your husband and he loves you, as long as you are happy with each other then age difference should not play a part of villain here.
Don't make things up and worry..Just live your life. Its a happy one, Ok?
Good Luck!
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