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Hello friends, I am Aruna, a software professional and recently had a love marriage.
And he belongs to an orthodox family. Very hardly my mil accepted our marriage. Since the day of her acceptance of our marriage,I had to be away from all sorts of my modern dressing and hair styles. Forced to wear old cotton sarees of elders, since it is told to be good. And my hair to be applied with til oil and plaint it with yellow ribbon, since yellow is meant for sowbhyagya.And now she shocked me that she have a vow to tonsture my head and studs to be arranged on the both sides of my nose on the banks of river at Madhurai. I am really tesed and shocked. we r moving tomorrow to Madhurai. And when i discussed this with my husband, he denied to help me and asked me to obey his parents. Tejender replied. Hello madam please tell your husband that you love him the most and tell him that if he does not support you in this matter so you will leave him and go away, then see if he loves you the most he will surely fight for you. Tanvi replied. Hi Aruna i hope you dont feel bad but if your husband is not helping or supporting yo in these small issue then you must think twice with living and loving him as he is not worth for your love and affection. Tanya replied. Oh dear this is bad what your husband is doing to you as he needs to be with you also he is not illiterate that what his mother is asking to do, please make it a point that you fight against it or else your life will be hell. Tina replied. Hi there please do not feel that you have made a mistake its happens with everyone its just that how you put your suggestions forward i think you need to make your husband understand properly in this as he is not getting what you are going through. Rupali replied. Hello Aruna please tell me where exactly you stay so we run a ngo where we help women who are in deep trouble because of their in laws and help them, please tell us and we will help for sure. Raima replied. Hi Aruna please have faith in god and please speak to your husband again and explain her your situation as you are feeling and also try to tell him that you love him the most and need your support the most. Ranjana replied. Hello dear i can understand your situation and position where are you currently, please be bold enough as you need to be strong as its only you who can solve this matter and get things in place. Rachna replied. Hi Aruna please do not panic and try to figure out how you can make your mother in law understand that what she is expecting are all old rituals and these have no values in real life explain her with some examples. Reema replied. Hi dear were you aware of all this before marriage or not, if you were aware then you should have thinked twice before getting married to your boyfriend and now you are just suffering for no reasons as orthodox people will never understand. Geetanjali replied. Hi there please tell your husband that if he doesnt supports you and not his mother to stop forcing you like this then you will decide to leave him immediately as this is the only solution for the matter. Geeta replied. Hello dear this really sad what is happening and you cannot do anything if you say no to this then you will be against your in laws and your husband as well so the best way is to follow the way they are expecting from you. Girish replied. Hello madam one thing you can do here is that you can force your husband to act in this situation as only he can save you from this and currently he is bit scared from his parents but i am sure he will help you out from this. Garima replied. Just tell your mother in law that you are not comfortable about this and if you will force then it will not be good, just explain them that what they are doing is crime with you and loving you the way you are. Geetu replied. Oh my god this is very upsetting and one must fight for it as you are educated as well your husband is but here is not supporting is just because his parents are involved and he cannot go against them. Gautam replied. Hello dear this is really sad and one must think that what has happened is cheating with you because your husband has done that with you, please speak to your parents about it and i am sure they will help you. Preeti replied. Hi Aruna according to me you should speak to your husband upfront and tell the pain and by then also if he is not supporting you and not understanding then leave him as he will never gonna understand in future also. Pooja replied. What kind of a husband he is, in this case he should support you as you cant have studs in both side of your nose as you are not living in a village and you are quite educated please act on it and say no to it. Rupali replied. Hi dear nothing to worry just be firm and deny to follow what they are asking to do as it is not compulsory that you need to follow each and everything what they are saying to do as even you have your own choices. Tina replied. Did your husband tell you before marriage that his family so orthodox and you need to follow all these rituals and if no then you should fight back for your rights as you have got married and not paid servant. Ranjana replied. Hi there please do not feel depressed as nothing has lost yet you need to make your husband realize that what pain you are going through and you should tell him that if you are not supporting then who will support you.