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Hello friends, I am Aruna, a software professional and recently had a love marriage.
And he belongs to an orthodox family. Very hardly my mil accepted our marriage. Since the day of her acceptance of our marriage,I had to be away from all sorts of my modern dressing and hair styles. Forced to wear old cotton sarees of elders, since it is told to be good. And my hair to be applied with til oil and plaint it with yellow ribbon, since yellow is meant for sowbhyagya.And now she shocked me that she have a vow to tonsture my head and studs to be arranged on the both sides of my nose on the banks of river at Madhurai. I am really tesed and shocked. we r moving tomorrow to Madhurai. And when i discussed this with my husband, he denied to help me and asked me to obey his parents. Vishaka replied. Being so educated and qualified how can you take this old myth and rituals, if you are so qualified i am sure your husband will also be the same level so how come he is not saying anything to his mom. Divya replied. I am sure you were well aware of the family before marrying your husband then why to cry it was your own decision nobody forced to have this kind of life. Deepa replied. Its very complicated issue you just have to follow the rituals as you said your family is orthodox so nothing can be changed and only you have to change. Disha replied. Going against your mil will create a big problem so you cant opt for that option also, its better to take your husbands support and get things sorted off. Samir replied. I can understand your pain but you must be knowing your husband before marriage so was he the same or he has changed after marriage, please speak to him and ask him to help you out of this. Sarika replied. You have a choice either accept it or just leave it, according to me just give some time if your husband is not helping you in this matter then just leave him. Sagar replied. Sometimes you are helpless and cant do anything, this is the same moment with your husband as he is helpless in front of you and her mother because he cant explain both of you. Seema replied. Please relax and be calm just follow the instructions and dont get upset i am sure your husband will see your pain and will speak to her mother and ask her stop this. Shika replied. Hi Aruna you said you have done love marriage so why is your husband not supporting you in this matter ask him why he is quite and not acting on this issue. Ram replied. Hi dear such a sad thing to happen after having a love marriage if you cant explain your husband means the love is not true and you are in the wrong direction. Disha replied. Hi Aruna just relax and make your family understand that these are all myths and in real life it doesn't matter what you do and what you wear, i am sure they will understand. Ishita replied. Who follow this rituals now a days, is your husband uneducated or is he stupid cant he see whats happening with you, really sad. Ishita replied. Looking to your post i only think that your husband is not loving you anymore as he is not seeing the pain you are feeling and this is very upsetting. Nisha replied. Its your husband only how can help you in this matter because if you do not listen to her mother then there would be clashes at your home and husbands are always negative for their wives. Monika replied. Aruna i think you should make your husband realize the suffering and pain through which you are going and ask him to help you out of this. Ankita replied. Having a love marriage is always a bad idea and you have left nothing to just obey the guidance of your mil, please go as per views and obey it. Pari replied. Hi Aruna,
There are some people who are still following all these in these days.But even they need to change their thoughts and views because no one are following. Ganga replied. Hi Aruna,
In such conditions husband can not help you because when your in laws are insisting you to do you have to because they are making any wrong with you know. Farha replied. Hi Aruna,
Orthodox will follow all such rituals and in that you have married against to them.So you have to listen to them what ever they say and it would be good for you. Sweety replied. Hi Aruna,
So you belongs to orthodox family.Then you need to follow all your rituals of your family.I wish it would be better you follow them and I wish god will help you a lot.