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im a divorced woman wid 4 kids.after my divorce i met a guy , he was divorced too but has no kids , the problem is hes 5 yrs younger dan me , weve known each other for 4 yrs, i love him alot but everytime i mention marriage he says hes scared of his dad,and doesnt know how to talk to him and plus his dad wil neva alow him to marry a woman wid kids , so i said if dats da case den u should move on but he says he cnt coz he loves me. so i dont know wat to do , he wont talk to his parents , he wont do anything against their wishes and he doesnt want to leave me . so wat should i do?its realy making me depressed. SONYA replied. Dear Sammy,
Age should be the least of your worries.
This age thing is not a big deal. So
just forget about it. Happy couples
don't care for the age difference. Just
relax!--(my husband is more than 5
years older then me)

As for the Marriage: Why do you want to
get married? Can you just live with him
in peace, without marriage?

I don't think you should move on. It's
only going to make the both of you
depress. Or....maybe even lonely. I can
only imagine how tough it is for you
to take care of 4 kids, by yourself.
You deserve to be happy. You deserve to
have a chance with this new guy.

4 years of knowing this guy is a long
time. Why throw it away....because you
feel the need to get married? and what
I don't understand is: is marriage going
to change, anything? think about it....

sorry, but.....I agree with him. If I
were in his shoe, I would probably feel
the same. My parents will not agree to
me marrying any man with 4 kids.
(if I were single-that is!!)

but.......I would just cherish what I
still have. We can still be together.
Sammy, it's okay. Many people here is
living the same life. You know for
some--their life is even more complicated
than yours. Friend replied. Hi Sammy

My advice / suggestions r :

- Move on... if he is so scared to confront his love for u to his parents I doubt he will stand up for u or ur kids after ur married.....

- Just tell him u can remain friends and move on... plz do think of ur self and ur kids too... not just love... coz after marriage u need ur hubby to be more than just loving.. U want him to take care of u and ur kids, support the family, stand up for the family etc....

- If he can't even confront his parents then U can see how ur future will be with him... just let him go...

- Be strong.... U will meet the right kind of man... Just be patient and have faith....Enjoy living with ur kids.,... and have fun with them....

- U will have to be double careful when u get into a relationship and marriage coz u have to think of ur self and ur kids tooo..... its easier to get out of a relationship but its not easy to get out of marriage..... and do not put ur kids into that kind of a life... coz they r watching u and will learn from U... Invest love, support,care in ur kids and U will get it back when its time for them to return it to U....

Hope my advice/suggestions help U