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hi all,
i'm 25 year old,married for 2 years.i have a good husband & i'm totally commited to him.i come from a conservative family & i really value marriage a lot.my problem is my childhood friend.i used to love him alot since my childhood.in my school days i had told my feelings to him & he had accepted my proposal.but it wasn't even a month from then,he came back & told that he doesnt want to continue this relationship & we just need to be friends.so i immediately agreed as love cant be forced.i never spoke abt my feelings to him & just maintained my friendship with him.but i always had feelings for him & i could see he had some feelings for me too.i waited for him all the while.finally when he didnt come back to me,i just went a head & got married to the person whom my parents chose for me.but then,i dont know what happened to my friend immediately after marriage. after marriage i came to US.i used to chat with him casually since i was getting bored here as i dont have the job.i never spoke anything wrong,very descent & a casual chatting.but,then he started telling that he loves me a lot in the chat which he had never told me before marriage.he started expressing his feelings & was chatting romantically with me saying that i'm so pretty etc....i never replied for all such things.i just used to ignore them & change the topic.but then he continued same kind of things in the chat.i then started feeling guilty for listening to such things from an external guy & also gott scared as i was getting inclined to him.so i completely stopped chatting with him.its 3 months since i've had any contact with him.but the problem is now i'm missing him.i'm not able to focus on any thing since i havent spoken to him.i'm feeling depressed.plz tell me what to do? i dont know why he is playing with me.before marriage he didnt care to talk to me,but all of a sudden why is he doing this to me? also since i've loved him from childhood,i'm not able to live without talking to him.all that loving things he told me in chat,keeps coming to my mind all the time.i dont want to cheat my hubby in any way,but i'm loosing self control.plzzz tell me what to do?why is he doing this & how should i come out of it? thank u all in advance Brinda replied. Yeah he is trying to play with u & want to spoil ur married life. DOnt talk to him . Just ignore him . U just forget that guy okay. Keep u engaged with ur work and friends. If u r educated do some Volunteer work in schools or Library rather than thinking abt ur childhood chap.

Alll the ebst xxxx replied. Hye,

Please don't fall into that.Be happy with your life and he is just playing with you. Nothing else. Don't even talk to him. Make some friedns here or start doing some higher studies or engage by yourself in something. Just tell hime if he talk to you next time, you got to tell your husband. Then he will relaise your serious ness. Some people like to play like this.It could be men or women. so be aware of them and make your life happy Sam replied. I just can say u that he is using u for timepass and some extra fun. He really dnt love u, if he loves u anytime he have taken responsibility for that before marriage. As he knows abt u that u like him alot he is playing with yr feelings. I should say that \" u r not missing him\" . It just u r alone here and no much to do. U r thinking that u r missing him. Just do some job or busy yrself than see all yr feeling will flew away. Attend to yr marrige and love yr husband coz he has taken yr responsibity of loving u, admire yr husband. Not that so called friend who is just using u.
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