Beauty & Grooming  Discussion Forum

hi guys,i am aditi,mother of two.while the elder is a girl(srinidhi) is 13,my son (akash)is 5.my mother in law and husband have felt that it is high time for his tonsure and ear piercing ceremony(mottai and kadhu kuthu).they have have choose palani as the pace for the ceremony.though the school in which he studies has aprroved this,i feel he will be teased(as it is almost filled by girls).also can u tell me what sort earring will suit his ear(i prefer he waring ear drops as studs are very small)pl comment aditi replied. hi
actually we did this ceremony as as a custom,hence it was mandatory for the boy to wear anklets,bangles earrings etc.though this is viewed as feminine,in the past all people wore such jewellery. adti replied. hi guys the tonsure ceremony on my son is complete,i wanted to share my

experince with you all.

let me start with the purchase of the jewellery.my mother my

daughter,akash and me went to GRT in T NAGAR.there in the baby section

we foung the studs boring,hence we went to the ear drops section and

bought a gimmiki(somewhat long).it looked really cute(atleast thats

what we thought).then we bought a pair of bangles,ankles for him ,as

our custom includes this(i do not know why the hell!!).
as my hubby went on atour(i think purposely),i had to call my mother.we

went to palani by bus.the bus which was supposed to arrive at 4 pm

arrived at 7!!.we found a lodge and slept(next morning we had to get up

early).the next day we were ready to leave at 5 30am.we climbed the

hill along with others(we ven did not have our breakfast).the going was

slow(i could wear only a chuddi). on reaching there the temple,we

easily located the tonsure centre.the tonsure centre for ladies was

empty,so we went there,a couple of women sitting there told it was not

a problem.they showed us the shower area as well(as the boy has to be

bathed after his head is tonsured).then we had to remove clothes(as

they told the hair would fall on it).we made him sit on his

sister.srinidhi was reluctant at first,but then the going was fine.the

barber woman,applied water to his hair and massaged it.then she told

srinidhi to bend his head.then she separated his hair into two and

started shaving his hair.after the rightside was shaved she proceeded

to the left.also we had told her to keep a top knot,or kudumi.then i

took him to the shower and bathed him,then only i realized we did not

bring new set of clothes for him.thus he had to be without any clothes

during the rest of the ceremony(he was just 5 yr old boy)then we

applied sandle paste to his bald head and oil to his top knot
then the ear piercing.again we made him sit on srinidhi' s lap.the women

who was there applied a gel to his lobes,andd then carefully pierced

his lobes using a heated needle,poor akash started crying,after

pacifying him,the other ear was pierced,then the earrings were

inserted.he looked cute and gorgeous.then came the bangle and

anklets.he looked like a girl(haha).after sometime and after a toy,he

stopped crying.we worshipped lord Muruga,and we returned to the lodge.
the sound of his anklets jingling drew a lot of attention.the next day

we returned.at school also the girls didnt tease him,and accepted him

as he was.now,we plan to remove his earrings(which includes other

things),after 3 yrs,so there will be another tonsure at that time.i

find these ceremonies really funny ,because my son wera shirt and a

trouser and also earrings and other girlish stuff,so pl comment