Dylan is not pointing yet for things he asks for things says apooo
but he still doesnt know i am mama and dada yet
worried are all kids pointing here already??
Priya Arti replied. Hi Priya- have you discussed your concerns with Dylan's pediatrician? If not, please do so and if he says its normal believe so.
I have seen my neighbor's kid signing 2-3 things at around 6 months of age which Arjun started doing just now. But now when he has started doing it, he is doing more and more everyday. Also he is saying at least two new words everyday. Today he said Shoe and made an airplane from the lego blocks (placed one block at 45degree over other) and flied it over shoulder and said fushhhhh. Reason could be that we everyday have so many airplanes flying over our house and everytime his dad notices one, he shows that to Arjun and says Airplane - fushhhhh. Also whenever I put on his shoes I say, let me put your shoes or sometimes, just Arjun, shoes, but almost consistently. We have a good night moon book which we try to read to him every night before he goes to bed. Nowadays his daddy is putting him to bed as we are night weaning him. So when he is very drowsy and not in a mood to read, his daddy just keeps saying goodnight ma, goodnight papa, goodnight dada, goodnight dadi, goodnight mama, goodnight buwa, goodnight chanda mama and good night what not until he sleeps. So yesterday when his daddy came to the goodnight buwa part he said uaa. I am proud of his accomplishments and I would not worry if all other kids of his age can fix a wooden puzzle or sign an entire rhym which he doesn't. Have patience.

Do you have a mixed age playgroup for Dylan? if not form or join one. Ask his care provider to take him there twice a week. Arjun has been a lot more confident, keen to learn/try new stuff after he has started going to day-care. A month back when we tried him on marry go round, he was so scared and refused to sit on it. Last weekend we took him to a farm and he agreed for a real pony ride. He enjoyed it and this time when we to the same mall, he was very keen to try mary go round. Funny right:). i see lots of new things - his personality kind of emerging now. But he had a growth spurt three weeks back as per the couple who takes care of him at his day-care. To tell you the truth now I am happy with his day-care.Agree, he was sick for over a month but now that phase is over. Now when we drop him there, he greets his day-care provider with open arms, all other kids come to the door to say hi to Arjun and they play together. He has become very much independent and can self-feed with a spoon. I wouldn't take credit for that as I think older kids at his day-care are inspiring him to do that.
But I have to say that his dad have been spending almost 2-3 hours everyday playing with him and showing him things like, cheeya(birdie), chanda mama (moon), bhubhu (doggie), ma (mom). You will not believe that we call each other ma and papa in front of Arjun. I think that could be the reason he now addresses me as ma and his dad as papa.

when he was 2 month old , I used to sing, pat the cake, pat the cake baker's man to him and used to pat his tummy with light hands. I did that until he was 6 months or so and then stopped, donno why, may be started singing other rhyms so didn't get to this one for a long long time, over 6 months I guess. Now day before yesterday, arjun's dad sang pat the cake out of the blue and Arjun patted his tummy. It was totally unexpected.

So don't lose patience. Kids are learning all the time and acquiring new skills. Timing is an important factor on when they are willing to demonstrate it.

Take care and don't worry. Keep trying.

Bhairavi replied. Hi Priya,
As everyone has already said, there is no need for you to worry.. Dylan is very small. Just keep talking slowly and clearly to him as you must be already doing. Kids this age have a very small attention span (~2-3 mins), so its important to teach them when they are attentive and interested. Also teaching them variety of things helps.. for eg., However hard I try to teach Nikku to do Namaste, she wont do it. On the other hand, if she likes something she immediately picks it. Some kids talk late because their tongue muscles take time to develop the strength, and this is hereditary. I am sure all that you are teaching him must be getting registered in his brain. And thats what is important.. Also I have heard & observed that boys talk later than girls (donno how true it is).
So Priya just relax dear and Dylan will just surprise you one fine day..:)
take care,
Bhairavi. Suchie replied. Priya

Please don’t worry and don’t force him to know things just because you feel he should know or other kids of same age know.
Every child is different and you will be amazed to know one fine day he will just start doing things by himself even if you don’t ask him.

I know my close friend used to worry because her son was not learning ABCD and 1- 100 things before he went to pre-school. Whereas many mothers of same age kids had prepared their kids since they were 1.5 years and spent 6 months on ABCD n digits stuff. This guy went to school and learnt all those things in a couple of weeks and he was so excited because he was learnig something. I bet other kids who already knew that must not have enjoyed that.

So no use of forcing, he will do things when it interests him and surely not when we want it. So enjoy whatever he enjoys.

Our example, my daughter waives bye-bye only when we close or open door of car / house / refrigerator. She doesn’t waive bye to any person. 

Cheers,
Suchie
Hetal replied. priya,i understand what you are going thru. its common for mothers to feel it that way. at first,if i was your elder sister or a close relative,
i would scolded you for feeling sad after comparing your baby with others kids..but you are not;so let me share somethings.

Human mind is incredible piece of work made by god, and as soon as human being is born, the first thing his mind is at the work is start absorbing everything from the surrounding he gets and love, warmth he gets.thats how he looks upon you for everything.

spend a good time in knowing your child potentials, and his capabilities than feeling sad about nething..

i have known that kids learn in various different ways and parents have to just find the right genie track to make them learn how to understand things.

spend watever time you can and always watch for his responses,make everytime learning time,,,and this wil help you realise his potentials & as to how he picks things and wat is his understanding about things he sees, he feels..and you can teach him accordingly.

observe him very closely about his reactions to each play or toy or your talks..talk slowly with eye contact,,so that he picks your style of speaking and tries to mimick it,,often kids at 9month onwards are able to do that..

your baby will learn things just when he is ready for it,and not before that ! i definately belive in that.

also, i have known parents who are taking marvelous efforts in teaching their kids before time and i have seen their kids growing exceptionally well later on as well, since things become easy for them in later stage!

i too feel bad that i am not able to spend that much time with nirja on that, but then i definately believe in onething that god has given all babies their own survival skills, and now its upto us to bring them to 100% ! you cannot force them to grow physically -very true,,
but yes you can make them grow mentally to the levels you want.

and i always run after that to satisfy myself with this saying.and whenever i come accross such parent i always observe their ways of doing things and i try to practise it with nirja. this way we also learn diff ways and often it works out. after all we are not perfect mothers,,if it doesnt work, nevrmind,,just leave it.but you do get some 1% idea of things with these efforts about how your child is reacting.

and with my experiences with nirja and all my friends kids ,who often hang out at my home,,i have understood that all kids grow differently and their understanding is totally unique with respect to each toy/each activity they play !
some grasp things by colurs,some by shapes,some by words and someby the timings in which they were shown these toys,,and some recognise by the noise or sound that the toy makes,,also some kids understand by relativity when you bring two things together..so get toys that are developmental toys and has bright colours,,kids are attracted to funny shapes, sounds and sharp colours(not floroscent ones but raw colours like red blue, yellow,black,or green).

get yourself a big picture to hang out on the passage of your home,,where in you are there, your dh is there and dylan is there..everytime pass by that picture, and take dylan hand/finger and say mummy(point to you, and the pic), daddy(point to your dh and his pic) and dylan (point at himself and his pic)..keep doing that..say it in musical way,,and he will love it.

i understand that we are trying to make him learn something, but thats how they learn. keep doing that,,practise makes ne human perfect,,and babies are great in picking things,,its just that we have to keep practising it.

dylan is a lovely growing child, know him better and you wil know the keys of his ways of learning things.

follow the same with everything around your house, keep repeating that,,everytime his sight falls on that object,,,speak out the same word that you speak everytime,,,and he will b able to grasp something.
put him to some activity group as well where he will observe other kids doing things, and he will learn it that way, if your teaching doesnt help him. go for the group where kids are some 6months elder than him, so that with self comparision he will learn new things and by the time its his age, he will be knowing those things ! kids do that...

i have seen remarkable change in nirja, after she started going to her gym,library and brahm samaj kids corner..she loves it there,,she has learned alot of things there,,i was surprised to see her not missing me for hours together. and it was alot better than daycare.
even though i was scared about not being a safe place and a place where she will be vulnerable to all infections,,i felt good after seeing her growth,,that it was my good decision.
until 5 years of your child, your baby will b just absorbing everything, so give him full opportunity to do that.

remember, there is nothing like milestones for developments,it depends on how curious and interesting environment is made around the child,,and he picks it right from there..your child looks upon you to be his teacher,feeder and everything,,, so go ahead,win over him,,,
nothing wrong if your child learns things ealier than his time ! its good for his development.and its not force,its a goodwill and a pay off of your efforts.

ask your caregiver to folllow all this and it will definately help.make things interesting for him, let him touch and feel things, let him explore the kitchen and other places where he is willing to make mess,,teach him how to clear the mess as well,,put yourself in mess too ! njoy the time.

practise makes man perfect nd i would like to repeat it,,,and i always repeat it to myself whenever i loose my patience with nirja.

Be happy that your child is a healthy growing child,now wat you need is to just bring him to his upmost level.

hope this was of ne help..dont worry,be happy.
Love
Hetal Kiran replied. Hey priya,
Like Sheetal said its no use pushing the kids they'll do things when they feel like it . But, what u can try is U point out things to him first repeatedly and one thing for a couple or maybe 3-4 days do not bombard him with too many things at a time , which i'm sure U already know. This does need a lot of patience .
One more thing u have to talk to them constantly on our outings aswell as at home . Hope this helps
BTW the birthday pictures were gr8. Dylan is really cute and ur dressed to kill:). pretty saree and the hairdo..

regards to u and Dylan
Kiran Sheetal replied. Hi Priya,

I know you do get worried but well, we just need to keep our patience. Anushka does point out, watever she wants, she shows it to us by pointing. She knows her toys and certain pictures in the book, which she shows by pointing. But, doesnt walk independently, not even a bit. No words yet, she knows mama daddy, but she cant say a word. All gibberish yet. There are some babies on this board who have started talking, walking and doing a lot of things. I feel bad when anushka doesnt do half of those things, but we all know by now, that it is absolutely fruitless to push these lil ones. They just learn everything by themselves, whenever they are ready. On some days even i come on the board and vent it out. All I would want to say is wait. Try to point at pictures in the book like ball, balloon, which are their favorites and see if he learns to point. Otherwise, just relax, he'll do it on his own and you don't stress yourself coz now you have another baby growing in you.

REgards,
SHeetal Anitha replied. Whats ur email id..i would like to talk with you? If you are free you can ping me on yahoo messenger . my id is svasu_ani @ yahoo. com

Anitha pri. replied. priya..
if this helps u my son too still dont call us or point or know who's mama n papa..n i'm teaching this since long but he don wana know .