Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Dear Kates,
I have gone through your messages and here is what I have to say.
To sum whole material to be explained below, yes you may try to get pregnant.

I am not totally with your counseller on Depression part. I am however considering that depression might be only 50% possibility. Rather than that other 50% is going to boost your spirit, going to give you opportunity to get over grief and consider values for new life growin in your womb. I think therefore you would do better with new pregnancy. Yes, when on grieving mode if you get on hormones,which are supposed to make you irritated and emotional at times, can lead to depression but that's just one possibility and not the whole likelyhood expectation.

I can't say how much I loved your views on hospital, and that allowed me to judge that you grown strong emotionally. You are in a stage to make good and bad decision with brains than heart. I am not saying brain does make always best judgement, but you did a good job there and you should go with the same hospital if you think they have all it takes to deliver your next baby with comfort.

I would still recommend change of OB. I liked your new OB. Who seemed rational and is aware of mishap. Good that you told him all and no clouds left if you have to see him for antenatal care in next pregnancy.

your weight is pretty much in shape. Do not do dieting or do not overeat fats/carbs. No need to weight each ingredient, enjoy meal but not to eat in restaurants or not to go for take out regardless how tired and how much rush you have.

I usually recommend six months of wait before you ttc for next baby. This is because to get back to muscles in shape and uterus toned. This is important but if tried quickly after a full term pregnancy you are likely to face all discomforts (pregnancy associated so called normal discomforts) much earlier. This is because your ligaments are completely back to normal. I am however seen girls who did great even if they got pregnant just in 6 weeks or 3 months postpartum. Another reason I include to wait for six months is to give newborn enough time to get nutrients that s/he deserves to. After six months infant can be on solids if that's the option because mother got pregnant. Since the later is not concern for you I still had to weight first possibility and Pelvic floor examination is good enough for me to judge that part. If your muscles are back to where they should be for 4 months postpartum you are doing great.

On this part, I would recommend another month to wait but if this is what you want go ahead and try in this cycle and have your new baby around or before christmas. But remember you may face some pregnancy associated discomforts earlier than in previous pregnancy. I am talking about round ligament, uterus expansion giving some pain, fetal movements making it hurt your skin, breathlessness, acidity or some indigesiton. But you should sail through without trouble and deliver a healthy baby.

Coming back to cord, the lenghth is tricky. My opinion about increased C-section in postdate babies is along with increased size of baby the length of cord that makes baby to get cord wraps, although not to for knot, suffice enough to express abnormal fetal heart rat while on induction and leading to C-section. Your new OB seemed fair on this part that one must not exclude such possibility and monitor pregnancy closely in third trimester. You will do fine in this new hands.

If you want wait for one cycle or get ready to throw a romantic dinner and preparing for a new life.

I would love to be there as and when required.

Good luck
Archie K.Radha replied. Dear Archie,

Thank you, thank you, thank you! Sorry it took so long to reply but thank you for your message Archie. I am definately going to change doctors in the meantime & will have the Hospital do all of my anti-natal care once I'm over the first trimester. I will keep in mind that I may feel pregnancy discomforts earlier thanusual.

Like you I feel like a pregnancy will bring with it happy thoughts rather than depression. I know that another child would be very healing for us all and I'd love to welcome another member to our family. There is nothing quite like being a mother, I never thought I wanted children but once I held my first I decided then and there I wanted more.

I am not going to concern myself with worries about the cord... I mean, I'd like to accept another pregnancy happily as I have with my last 3. It is out of my control and may very likely never happen again but I will follow the doc's instruction & make sure the baby is monitored.Especially in the last trimester. What else can I do? Frankly I don't know that I could go through this again and survive so I intend to be very careful through this pregnancy without going to extreems.

Would you believe that now that you've given me the all clear for another child I have cold feet? Is that a normal reaction? Suddenly I feel nervous as opposed to excited like I thought I'd feel. Then again all 3 of my babies were happy surprises so it may be the fear of planning a child that is the problem. Wow, so we can really have another child Archie? Thank you, thank you again