Hi
Have started my baby in daycare from last week.He is hating it as he cries a lot and the first day he refused to eat until I went and fed him.Whenever I see him like this I feel like I must be the worst mother in the world .I just hope he gets adjusted to it.Anyone facing the same. Radhika replied. Hi Nick

I can totally understand how u feel, but from my experience (its been now 2 and 1/2 months since anu jjoined day care) and it took me a month to get used to the fact that day care is safe and i should not worry. If ur parents are here, i would say start half day or a few hrs initially..u being there for a day or 2 is enof, so they get used to people there and don't feel they are n a strange land. u can attach the mobils/toys to the crib at day care so they feel secure.
I can assure u , u will feel much better after a few days..I think Anu is less fussy with the daycare since she has learnt to be with other children, share the attention of day care people. She goes readily to any new person..and the day care ladies help us out since we are first time moms, atleast mine is a blesing to me, helped me with solids, milk intake, what to do while constipated,calls me up if she had too many dirty diapers, etc. we have become more friends and she is a guide to us.
Other side of it is be prepared for ur baby to catch colds often. acc. to ped. everyy child the first year in day care no matter what age has to go thru this phase of catching cold infections. Initially when MIL was there, it was always an excuse, no day care today, but i realized made a mistake because then every othere resuming day was like a new day for her and confused her..so let it be regular, don't skip a day and keep everything u do very routined so they know oh so i am with them for sometime and with mom for sometime.
Be friends with ur day care lady, talk with them about ur everyday life, take copies of the feeding schedule they have so u know what they are doing, come in between to see how they are doing. U have to prepared to see that baby at times has to wait for her chance to play/picked up..but u wll soon see how she learns and acts accordingly. They will help her reach her milestones too. I cook 5-6 dishes for the week..from 5-8 is full anu time from both of us..she enjoys it, we have fun and once she is asleep, we go about with our chores...makes me feel good about spending time with her..no longer feel guilty and at times am glad she does have the friends she has, she learns a lot from them, and esp days when i have cold/not well i am so glad they are there for her..had a working mom, and i always looked up to her and i am sure one day ur baby will too..its the quality of time u spend with them that matters..u can be whole day with ur baby and not be with her 100% or just spend 2-3 hours only with baby and they will feel gr8 and loved..Just hand in there, I assure u u will go thru guilt, tension but u will see him developing social skills and learning new things and enjoying all the new toys,swings,bouncers and having new friends and will feel good.
Suni is so right in her message..so be a proud mom and do the best u can, its a lot of hard work to manage both but so much worth it both a job and being a mom.
Take care.All the best.
Love
radhika Manvi replied. Nick,
My heart goes out to u but trust me as Suni summed it so beautifully don't cringe&suffer with guilt.You can give so much more to Ayush since u r a working mom,these first few dys r a temporary phase.I agree with the idea of u spending few hrs the first wk or so.Read Radhika's post abt how Anu transitioned smoothly into daycare.Just be strong,he will get accustomed&soon will be as happy as a lark playing with all the other babies!!My best wishes!!He has also grown so big,just saw his pic,that pose is so cute na when they hold their feet&gaze&play with them! Suni replied. Hi Nick,

Sahil will go to day care in two months, but I am also very nervous about how he will adjust.
I think working mothers should stop feeling guilty and just understand the good of it all, that our babies will grow up respecting women in the workforce and recognising their mom's talents and ambition does extend outside of the kitchen.
Initially, they might hate it, but it is more of stranger anxiety, and it might help for you to spend a couple of hours in the daycare with him and the care takers. This way he will recognise that his mom trusts the other ladies and it is a safe environment. And slowly transition him into full time daycare. Yes, he will adjust to it, have nerves of steel and go through the motions.
It might also help to allow him to co-sleep for a few days during his early transition into daycare, this way he is still spending long night hours with you.
These are all the bookish tips I have read about this, and I hope it helps you. I am sure I will go through a emotional rollercoaster when I send Sahil to daycare too. But I also know that I am a happier person because I work, and it will be my strength. You are an individual, mom, wife and daughter, and in each sphere I am sure you will come out on the top. Just hang in there and persevere.
You are a good mom because you are looking after the needs of your family.

Take Care and Smile
Suni