Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi Friends,
I am a bit confused, i have a 3 year old daughter, my wife expired 4 months back, my daughter keeps remembering her mother, people have suggestedto remove my wifes photograph from the house , so my daughter should not remember her. there are suggestion for me to remarry and get a step mother for my daughter.
i am totally confused , i don' t know how difficult it will be for me to manage my daughter, as she will grow big , there will be lot of questions in her mind.
please advise me , as my parents are 65+ and they want me to get married again and make my daughter forget her mother and accept the new mother . Swetha replied. Marry as your parents are suggesting. Slowly your daughter will be lively again. Also you need a partner as you also have your needs. You cannot take care of your daughter and focus on your work at the same time. Dubu replied. First try to eliminate the sadness of your child or she might go in depression. Later you can take the decision of second marriage. Also you have to be very careful in selecting one as now it is about our daughter. Ruhi replied. It seems you are young. So there will be times when even you might feel lonely. And as far your daughter is concerned, she will definitely need a mother as you can never get as close a mother can get. Nitin replied. Marriage is not the solution as the new mother won’t guarantee complete elimination of your daughter’s sadness. Maybe she would never accept her as a mother. Radhe replied. As your daughter is old, she will need a mother to take care of. But the decision is up to you, whether or not you are comfortable. If you can fill the gap of her mother then you can continue without marriaage Dhara replied. HI DK, it will take some time for the bay to come out of this depression. Try to take her somewhere out where you can spend some time with her and give her whatever she asks you. Thats the only way Hardika replied. I think you should not rush into things right now and stuff go with the flow. You can remove your wife's pictures but then you daughter has the right to know about her mother if not now but later in her life when she grows up. Sarwa replied. Hi DK, if you are fine with going for a second marriage then better do. Your daughter will stay comfortable all you need to see is choose a good mom for her. Megha replied. Hello Dk,
Am sorry for you but it would be better you go for remarry because you had three years old daughter and she can easily accept her but you need show the difference after your marriage also.I wish you will never do that. kajal replied. yaah there is nothing wrong in remarry. your daughter is very small she will accept the fat of new mother very fast. so don't worry she will accept the fact and when she grows tell her the truths so it will be easier to accept that also. and make sure she will get loving mother as well as good wife for u. Shreya replied. It will be very difficult for you to get a step mother who will care for your daughter like her real mother. You won' t find a good step mother...You should only marry a women who decides not to have her own kids for taking care of your daughter like a real mother....or marry an infertile women who cannot have kids...