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Hi All,

Going thru a unusual problem which I would like to share with all.
I am a working Mom of a 3 yr old son living in Blore. On the surface our life seems to be very normal and happy family.
But there seems to be some emptiness in life . We donot have any friends whom we can call close friends. As I am working I dont get too much time to chat with neighbours. I usually have a 5 mins chat with them while returning from office.
I am from a small town where we had lots of friends and neighbours whom we would visit and they helped us when needed and vice versa. During festivals we exchanged sweets made at home But here everybody is so busy and all doors mostly closed with no idea who is living inside. During initial years of marriage it felt gr8. We enjoyed the privacy !! but now it has started to get very boring. The usual activity on a weekend is hit a mall and eat out .. Even if we feel like meeting someone ..Not sure if its ok to disturb them on weekend .
I am a talkative person in office and treat all colleagues as friends but then there is no one who is very close, whom I can visit when I feel like or who can come to my place when she feels like ! or with whom I can discuss anything on mind !
Same with my hubby - he too doesnt have any buddies. He has a brother who stays in US. Not many calls ... I insisit him to call his brother and talk to him as they are like friends but hubby is often too busy to even do these basic formalities !
So this is making me kind of sad at heart and feeling of emptiness
So what I want to know from all is : Is this the usual style of living of working couples in big cities ?
or is it happening with us only ...
Do I need to make an extra effort to make close friends ?

Thanks,
Sweta


SANIGINI replied. Dear Sweta,
I think your feeling is very normal, at times even i crave to have a good freind but then i feel my hubby and my little 3 yr old daughter are my best friends you know the world is very materialistic to make close freinds and as it is we get so less time to even spend with our children, believe me i think you should start enjoying with your family, make plans for going out of station during weekends and watch movies take your kd to some nice kids entertainment there are so many things, i am working i have some relatives around but i just speak to them over the phone for 10 to 15 mintes i working like you by the time i reach homes its 6 so i don't know where the time runs and like you during the weekends we too just hit the malls and eat out, i don't know about this but if your parents or your in-laws you can call them to stay with you for some time..
enjoy take care