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Pls can I have your inputs for baby #2..?
I know the under 30's can wait but are the 30\";s moms thinking????

Tia ki 30+ ma ! Vani replied. It was your birthday on 15th of last month right, many happy returns!!! Sorry to be late :)

About #2, even I am in dilemma and if I have one, I feel I have to wait till next July when Rishi will be 2 and a half. Shyam is promoted as a Director and moving back to Chennai and my career is in the air now. There is no QA in chennai office which means I have to go back to support if I want to join him and am so confused. More about that on Monday :)

So I will for sure have my girl (how optimistic) and that will not happen in the next one year (if everything is in my hands :-))

Sush, all the best. I am sure Tia needs company. Plan soon for a second one :-) What does Tapash say???
Waiting to hear from you.
Love
Vani Archana replied. Hi Sush,

You seem to be thinking many times abt this thing it seems (from your earlier posts)... me too....

Initially it was complete NO for me as I had some personal issues with how my hubby's side family acted during my preg time and also after birth of my daughter...believe me it was a worst nightmarish time for me..
But I guess everybody moves on, so have I.

Still, I am not sure if I want to go ahead wth second baby. Sometimes, it is like I cannot.. as it is my mom is taking so much pain because I want to work and there is nobody ready to take care of Radha. And it is like 'take a day at a time' kinda arrangement. I mean, it cannot go on forever like this, na?
So having second baby surely means I should leave my job, am I ready for that? 50:50 !

I came across a very good article abt why one should have second baby. Let me give the link here for anybody who is almost sure but not 100 percent, maybe it will make the situation easier :-)

http : // in DOT rediff DOT com/getahead/2004/sep/29ga-mom DOT htm

The lady who wrote this,Zelda Pande, has written some other articles also on parenting in general (her experiences and thoughts), I like them all. There is a link to all her articles at the end of the page I have given above.


Ok, so, where am I at this moment? confused like anything.. I am not 30 still (I can say this for very verry few months only :-( ).
I think anybody who is 30 or more should speed up the decision, as we all know medical consequences of pregnancy past 30, specially nearing 35 etc...
Which means I must take some decision very fast!

And it is not like deciding to buy potatoes and actually buying them from market.. nature takes its own sweet time to make things happen. So we have to add some buffer time for that too...
Oh God, writing all this is making all the issues more concrete in front of me and I already feel the pressure to act fast!!!

I envy people like Raj who are so sure abt what they want, and I wish I was like them...

Conclusion: I will take a decision in another 5-6 months of time and then will stick to it (if it is NO).

Regards,
Archana Rajashree replied. hey Sush..
I definitely want a baby no 2,(baby girl maybe)..Once Sid completes 2nhalf years..But hubby doenst want another kid, so it will take time to change his mind abt it..
When i see my friends carrying for 2nd time, i start eating srikanth's head.I just love the lil cuties.Couple of my friends are having babies within 18 months apart..So its a Yes for me but it will wait..
Raj