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I am having tough time with my torturing husband. I have a 1 month baby. I plan to divorce him. Mine was a short marriage, should I remarry? I am confused, whether staying alone will be good for my baby as if I remarry, will he accept my baby? Can some one please share their experience and suggestions. jitendra replied. Hi Kiran,

If you r thinking of divorce and staying alone for some time then i feel that you are working or you may continue with your work after sometime.Staying alone for sometime will help you in giving time for your kid.And to find a right partner after that is not a big deal.. now indian women are getting bolder and most of the couples are formed at their workplace.. look for a right person and make him go for you... and be very careful.. for choosing your person....

My best wishes are with you..

Bye Kiran replied. Hi Pooja,

As rightly put across by Ms Preeti take one thing at a time. Take some time off and analyse ur self first. What is that u want. Make points write down whatever comes to your mind then go thru it and write down the pros and cons seperately. This will help u in taking decision. Once decided stick to it and work on it.
BEST WISHES
Kiran Preeti replied. Hi Pooja,

Do this one step at a time..First thing that is important is to get away from your torturing husband (you are not very clear about it however...is he being physically and mentally abusive? Is he doing it under pressure from yr in-laws? No hope that he'll listen to some other elders?)...but after you have decided to go for a divorce...get that out of the way...

After that, please give yourself some time to heal from all these bad experiences...please don't enter into another relationship staright away... only when you feel stronger and better, should you start another relationship...otherwise you'll carry the scars and bitterness of the first one into the second one...

Remarrying will be good but only after being very sure that the man is accepting of your baby...if a man agrees to marry you but doesnt want the baby, he is not really a nice man, is he? But as I said, don't do anything in haste...Marriage should not be an escape route but a nice bond that you enter into to have a happier life... yeah replied. First successfully divorce your husband..Then you think about the next relationship..
About the second relationsip there is no guarantee that the second husband will love your baby even as much as your first husband (since he is the real father he might be more attached to the kid then the second husband)..But there is chance that the second husband might not torture you like the first one is doing...Think twice/thrice/lot of times about what is important..your escape from first & happy life with the second or the baby's security & wellbeing.
Goodluck.