I live in usa and have come across various families where parents send their ki0ds at a very very young age (less than 1 year old )to stay with their parents or inlaws in india .mostly the reason given is focus on career ,they will get better care there etc.
i still couldnot understand if career is important then why do they make babies and then send them to focus on career .I think they can fovus on career for whole life without having kids .I have seen it more in communites like andhraites and gujratis .
WITH NO OFFENCE To any one .what is the real reason for sendind kids to old parents in india .
i some times imagine if the samething that moms do to kids ,what if husbands doesto wife ..like sending her back to india with parents so he can save cost or focus on career.the wife immediately would say why did you marry me then .
but a child cannot say mom and dad why did you bring me when you had to send me back with your parents .
I also wonder how can old parents manage a kid .the energy and patience that a person has in young age is not the same in old age .
are there any one on this board who can provide my answers . jyoti replied. I agree with you! I have seen the trend in andraites more often. In my opinion any woman who gives birth is not a mother, a mother is a person who takes care of her child from birth! I know some disgusting people who never take care of their child, they leave their first child competely to their parents and shamelessly become pregnant again and spread the news with delight when the poor kid is treated like a baggage that has to be dumped. I hate woman like this they are indeed sinners nothing else. I hate men too who promote all this. I also know some really educated woman who take a break for many years for their child these are real mothers. Kids who are created and not taken care off develop into bullies and unhappy children. These kids create bad atmosphere for normal children in school. There should be a rule to punish bad mothers.sometimes when mom is a single mother or widow its okay to go to work it is very sad for these woman and my heart goes out to them.all the woman who dump their children to others should be punished. archi replied. Even i agree with u and i feel the same but at the same i think every one has there own reasons tosend there kids to india to there parents/in laws Ex:Last week i met a lady in one of my friedns party even she send her 1 yr old daughter with her mother and she is concentarting on her career but she is not happy by sending her baby away from her it depends on there Priorities like kids/money ok Sneha tc bye.