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Hi all..
I have a pathetic husband and now I htink he is also a pathetic father. Pathetic husband bcos he has tortured me mentally right after 2 mths of our marriage till now.(my child is 15 mths old and almost 3 yrs of marriage), hit me , pushed me when i was carrying, we were separated in my pregnancy, all bcos my MIL has made him apuppet in her hands. MIl is too possessive of him,I hv never interfered in his finncial aspects. but sicne i monetarilt support my parents he has a lot of problem though this was told to him b4 marriage.
Pathetic father bcos if am away at my moms place he calls me to check how i do things theren compare it with tat i do when am at hme with him (everything that i do pertaining to my daughter). and make issues of every small thing.
he doesnt understand the need of me as a mother.
How shld I deal twith such kind of husbands? di bh replied. Hey i understand the position you are in i was in same position 6 months ago. But i took a stand and gave back to my husband now he behaves himself well.
Yes in laws only become possessive of sons when they are married. till then they are non entity.Dont give in to their whims. They will never be satisfied.Give them point blank when they accuse you. i did that now my in laws wont open their mouth in front of me. I dont stay with them .But still they try in all ways to convince my husband to come and live with them.
why dont u take a break and try staying by yourself. Hey when u are staying by yourself your husbad will miss u and the kid and come to u .If husbands dont realize wife's value we shud make them realize. a wife can be a mother and a wife,but a mother can be just a mother.that position deserves respect but at the same time wife also deserves some respect.also the next time your husband tries to hit u mention it to him that you will take some action. hey i was in a physically abusive relationship just 6 months back .i suffered for 4 years,thinking he will change. he didnt but got encouraged.so i took some action and now he is scared to even come near me when he is angry.
dont give your in laws the pleasure that they cud ruin your peace of mind.Take a stand be firm.If you do one thing in that direction u will get the confidence to go all the way.best of luck. Raj replied. first of all have a peaceful chat with your hubby.that to when he is alone if he is near his darling mom then dont go near.If he listens and understands you then fine if he diesnt then my dear girl stand up for your rights.find a job for yourself and give them a warning that if they are not going to behave well you will separate from them legally.iam sure you will be able to live in dignity.these days it doesnt matter if one is divorced.later on in life if you find a suitable and loving person go ahead and marry him rather than living with such rotten people.DONT SUCCUMB TO YOUR MILS DICTATORSHIP.ALL THE BEST