I delivered recently. Husband doesnt seem to enjoy the baby. He is so bad with my parents too they are here to help me. Ever since I delivered rather even before I came home from the hospital he has been fighting with me.
He doesnt allow me the enjoy the baby too. I dont feel 100% like a mom. I feel so cheated and lost trust. He was very nice in my pregnancy, he hates my parents that is the bottom line.
Why did God Punish me? I feel like dying but my parents and kid will suffer.
Pray for me dont worry replied. hi dear,

i can understand your position very well because iam also in the same position.But mine is different.My in laws are here and my hubby spends most of the time with them.Iam all alone here.He is afraid to care and to show love for me in front of his parents.He spends the whole evening with them and only 5-10 mins with me.You atleast have your parents near you dear.but think about me.Iam not able to communicate this to my parents also.So you are lucky to have your parents.Not only my hubby fights with me but my inlaws too.they ask me to do work in the house.they find fault in whtever i do.i am mentaly disturbed b'cause of this.Only for few days you will have this problem then every thing will come back to normal.So don't lose hope.My inlaws have left to india.But still we did'nt come back to normal life.i still feel that they are here and we both maintain a distance even now.I think it will take sometime.So your life too will come back to normal soon.Think that every thing is for good.God did'nt punish you dear.He has blessed you with a beautiful baby.Everyone will not get this blessings.I have seen many women suffering without kids.So we are blessed to have one.See your baby face and u will forget all the problems.Enjoy your motherhood as we will not get this time to enjoy with the baby back.she/he will grow fast and we will then realise that we did'nt enjoy with her when she was a baby.i will pray for you.Do sit and talk to your hubby about this.Tell him that you need his love only now(i don't know why some men change after we become a mom).You have just entered into motherhood.You have so much to do.don't take silly decisions.I too used to feel the same like you before.But not now.so try to relax and talk to u parents and your hubby about this.We are here for you.Do share your worries with us.Take care dear.don't worry
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dont worry replied. hi dear,

i can understand your position very well because iam also in the same position.But mine is different.My in laws are here and my hubby spends most of the time with them.Iam all alone here.He is afraid to care and to show love for me in front of his parents.He spends the whole evening with them and only 5-10 mins with me.You atleast have your parents near you dear.but think about me.Iam not able to communicate this to my parents also.So you are lucky to have your parents.Not only my hubby fights with me but my inlaws too.they ask me to do work in the house.they find fault in whtever i do.i am mentaly disturbed b'cause of this.Only for few days you will have this problem then every thing will come back to normal.So don't lose hope.My inlaws have left to india.But still we did'nt come back to normal life.i still feel that they are here and we both maintain a distance even now.I think it will take sometime.So your life too will come back to normal soon.Think that every thing is for good.God did'nt punish you dear.He has blessed you with a beautiful baby.Everyone will not get this blessings.I have seen many women suffering without kids.So we are blessed to have one.See your baby face and u will forget all the problems.Enjoy your motherhood as we will not get this time to enjoy with the baby back.she/he will grow fast and we will then realise that we did'nt enjoy with her when she was a baby.i will pray for you.Do sit and talk to your hubby about this.Tell him that you need his love only now(i don't know why some men change after we become a mom).You have just entered into motherhood.You have so much to do.don't take silly decisions.I too used to feel the same like you before.But not now.so try to relax and talk to u parents and your hubby about this.We are here for you.Do share your worries with us.Take care dear.don't worry
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Radhika replied. That is a difficult situation...i would be furious with the childish behaviour too esp. since first few months are so diff. guys can be so egoistic sometimes..anyway, all i would say is he is trying to make u feel miserable for calling ur parents...if thats the issue, its ridiculous, should have said when u were inviting them, heck no when u were getting married..anyway no point in should have would have...i say ignore him, u and ur parents have fun, enjoy the child and make the child feel secure, don't fret or worry about his behaviour, he will know he is missing the joy of playing and holding a child, don't force him to be nice to either ur parents or child, let him sulk and fume for sometime i am sure he will get fed up once he realizes u are still going on ur right way.
Parents must be feeling awful seeing his behaviour..make them feel at home.
U just take rest, enjoy ur mom's cooking and everytime he complains or acts indifferent, ignore though it will be difficult to but do.
there is nor right or wrong in this situation, u have to find a way out urself..this could be a wrong soln. but only u would know how ur hsuband would react if u ignore him..try it out..
call his friends home, he will def change when they are there..trying to show off his child (hopefully as all fathers do)
Really cannot think of one soln..u have to be calm and am sure there will be a way out.
Till then, enjoy ur time with ur parents and child and let him be out ther sulking..
All the best..very difficult time initial months of being a mom and can understand how diff it is for u.
Take care
Radhika