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I am very depressed these days, I had met a person before marriage and loved him and we were set to get married but some how, something was striking my mind that something was wrong with this person, i manage to crack his email password and found he was going around with 2 girls simultaneously, he also had promised another girl from bombay in getting married to her and I could find to and fro love letters, when I asked him he told me that they were just friends and he knew he was caught red hand...but did not accept his fault and I told that's fine and asked him for phone of that girl he refused and told to trust him, but i am sure he played fool and I had collected enough evidence and showed to his parents and his relatives and they accepted that he had as habit of seeing girl's often, if he finds a girl rich, fair and financial sound, he will wave off the ex – girl ,staging that his parents are not happy with proposal. And promising for marriage and registering in matrimonial site for marriage for fun. I was shocked...I decided to drop marriage plan, I had awaited 2 years (same game plan that his parents did not accept, since I was from non-veg family and not very fair and finally they came to my home and spoke abt marriage after 2 years). The shocking truth was that one of this uncle told, his parents also had same mind set about fair, rich girl in mind always and would call off the proposals if they get new proposal.
Now I got married to a very loving man.......but the whole past is haunting me...now i am pregg for 8 months and this guy suddenly called me and said he is going to USA to join is new wife and wanted to meet me once...he got married to her only b'coz he wanted to go to USA, wife’s good salary, now he and his parents were not worried b’coz the girl in USA was dark.....and she is too young and does not know his past....neither I want to tell her and disturb their marriage.…..…due to visa delay reason I am staying with my parents and my husband is in overseas…now this guy says since I did not trust him that’s the reason I am staying away from my husband …he also says that’s the curse for not trusting…but I am sure I took right step in dumping him. I am so depressed; he often tells that my parents took wrong step in me getting married off to some one….I avoid his calls, sometimes calls on landline… I cannot tell this to my parents, if the matter worsens and reaches my husband ….then I will be in trouble.
Bhavana replied. You must tell your parents about this,you have to take away the power`he holds over you by doing this kind of cheap stunts.
You don't have to feel upset about the past b'coz what you found out was genuine and he has no right to make you feel guilty about this whole thing.

At no cost should you meet this person,it is always best that you let your parents aware of the situation,because as you said its better that you say this than letting that person tell this to your parents or hubby more so.
All the best. Priya_girl replied. First and foremost you are 8 months pregnant and should be focusing more on your health and baby more than anything else. This guy is a useless person which no morals and respect.

I suggest you avoid talking to this person who is causing you depression. Even if he calls on the landline hang up as soon as you hear his voice and put the phone of the hook so he doesn't call back.

If you have enough courage tell him I do not wish to speak to you and please refrain from calling me.

Any negative energy right now is harmful for you and your baby. If matters get worse it is a good idea to involve your parents. Sometimes elders are more experience in handling these situations. Better your parents than your husband (I gather you haven't told him about this issue which again is a mitake).

That's just my 2 cents rest is upto you.