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Hi...I am a working lady and married for last 2years. my marriage was a love cum arrange marriage.My husband and me both known each other from our college days. When I get married then I don' t know his family members at all. They used to stay in joint family and more than 40 people are there. I have 8 sister in law (they are nice of my husband) I faced a typical problem @ my in laws house. In the name of ritual they did a bad thing with me, they have just pulled out my blouse from back in front of everybody and asked my husband to draw some doll in my back.

After that they asked me to draw same on my husband' s back and later on they found I have painted a girl child ....During that time my mother in law uttered a dialogue \" why you will not do this girl- you have to do it\" when I refused to open my back side of blouse. this is not enough to me....they poured some hot water on me as it was also a part of ritual.later on they questioned me how can I draw a girl child.......

I used to stay alone with my husband at our work place. My mother in law and other family members (of my husband) used to come very often and stays for 15 to 20 days. they don' t like me at all.They are not happy with my job and they humiliate me very much. They used to sleep just outside of my room and I cant close the room door. one day I was changing my dress and closed the door, she just pushed the door and opened it......how horrible it was i can' t write it also. When ever they came to my place they never allow me to go to kitchen and I can' t even make my tea...I can' t open the door when my husband is ringing the door bell...My all speech are wrong to them. Now I am frustrated.I have told all this stuff to my husband and also mentioned him I don' t like his family members.He used to say be just forget and forgive them.If my mother in law cook something then usually she give it to his boy but she will not serve it to me ...she always make face @ my eating habits...Now a days when they came I get irritated to them ....can' t forget all the bad things that happened with me ...What i will do...Where I will go.....I will be mad one day ....just I can' t tolerate them ...I want to come out from all of these but I can' t . Did I need treatment....M I going to be mental? please help me...I cant leave my husband..... rashi replied. hey Lee ! cheer up ! i do agree with cloudy' s views ! here, we cant help but atleast share our hurts ! i too have undergone similar conditions at home ! nobody wud even hear out ! but now, here i spurt out my feelings , find similar people and feel lighter ! atleast speaking out our hearts make us lighter ! cloudy replied. I wish I had an answer to your problems, but I just wanted to let you know that don' t let your inlaws get to you. I ended up going into severe depression because I tried to please my inlaws. Its not worth it. If all mil can understand what goes around comes around the world would be a better place, at least for all the dil. cloudy replied. I wish I had an answer to your problems, but I just wanted to let you know that don' t let your inlaws get to you. I ended up going into severe depression because I tried to please my inlaws. Its not worth it. If all mil can understand what goes around comes around the world would be a better place, at least for all the dil.