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Hi,
This is the first I am writing/asking solution to my problem anywhere.

I am strong woman from day one, I was not dependent on anyone. After marraige also the same, I am married for 4 years now and have a son who is 1 year old.
I dont know where to start, my happy days of marraige lasted only for first 6 months. In these 6 months my husband was the ideal husband a woman could get. never put me down always use to care of me, took care of parents, behaved as if I am his world. I know from day one that he is not a show off kind of a guy but I know deep down he loves me a lot.
The problems started after 6 months, He has lots of friends...he never took to me to his office nor allowed me to come near 100 feet of it. I am a working woman and I know how to carry myself in public but I dont understand for some reason he doesn' t like to be seen with me in public(I am little obese and does not have good complexion, but I am pretty and it didn' t stop me from being what I am today). He will go out with his friends and also the kids in his family(SIL' s kids) but we never go out, even if we go out we get the take out and sit at home and enjoy. I am done with this behaviour of his. Apart from this he blames for everything, for a simple example if he put something on the stove and switched it off and forgot about it and put his hand on it and burnt it he blames me even if I am no where near 50 feet of that area. If I am hurt he wont even come near me ask me if I am ok.My husband didn' t say a thing to me the day our Son was born. Normally I have seen with some many couples/families when u give birth to child they will atleast ask u how u r feeling after the delivery, this guy nothing(I even reminding him :-))

My MIL know about this and she will never make an effort to correct him on the top of it she makes sure that I am not respected nor given the rightful place in the family by corrupting her children' s brain. My son was born with there complexion and features(he looks like his father) from that day on I am no one in the family now, MIL and SIL started talking ill about me behind my back and started telling my husband all sorts of nonsense about my family. As we stay in another country I am not even going back to my In-laws place so I dont care about what they think about me. But I have to live my husband my whole life so I need this help.
Thing is I am not dependent on him in anyway, but don' t want to lose him too...as I think he loves me..But I am done with this attitude. This is stressing me a lot I am not able to enjoy my life with my son(who is a world to me now).
Please I need help so that I can do something and try to change him in some way to show some respect to me as a wife and mother of his child. kavita replied. dear Sanju,

urs must b arranged marriage i guess. he knew how u look when he got married to u so ur looks shud not b a problem. he loves u but if he is not comfortable to go out with u its his problem. why dont u talk to him about this and if avoids answering then u make the programme to go out for a dinner and see how he reacts. if he says no and doesnt even bothers to give reasons u go out all by urself with ur kid. make good friends. plan lunch or dinner with them once a while and ask ur husband to babysit ur child. that way u will b able to enjoy urself. friends r really a great help to boost one' s confidence.

i hope u find it useful.
bye.

- kavita