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Hi all....
i am 26 years old working woman married to a smart nice guy of 31 years and we have 8 months old baby now.
Ours is a Happy Family :)
Problem is my in-laws...
After Marriage we both were staying in Bangalore and my inlaws were in our native place.
we are sending some money for them every month. they have their own house and apart from our money they don' t have any other source... so we used call them to stay together and they used to refuse. they were very happy to stay there.
they used to give many house old things to their daugter without our knowledge and they were used to it. i came to know that later.
after my delivery i brought them to my house to take care of my son and i was supposed to go to work. befor joining to work only they started to create problems.... they quarelled with us... for some function we had been to our native and while coming back they opposed to come with us...
that was a big shock for us... we came back to bangalore i was supposed to join to work after 15days... struggled hard and managed bring my mom for one week later we got one maid from my home town and we are managing some... i joined office also after 2 months we shifted my house near to my office so that i can go home once for feeding and all... which is near to their daughters house also... after 2 months tthey came to stay for few days... and i didn' t speak to her as i was angry on them that they didn' t come to take care of my kid...
she started loose talks with my neighbour and i was very angry abt that also... i told my husbad... their daugter is also not good... she is nice to me in front but behid me she plays a nice game... after few day they left....
these all are didturbing me... i am totally upset...
My husband is very nice person and he don' t want to hurt anybody... even he scolds them sometimes... but can' t manage them they are very rude people.

i can' t bring them again and keep with me to take care of my kid...

and onemore problem is servants........
i dont' how she takes care of my son when i am not there...
i have given her enough freedom and she is also good but when i a not there i don' t know... i am scared...
my mom is asking me to leave my son in their native after nine months...she can' t come and stay with me...
i can' t depend on servants also ...
i can' t quit my job also,,,
i don' t want to send him also,,,,
i don' t want to keep my inlaws also with me...

i am not at all getting solutions :(

please some suggest me

what to do now?????????????????? hi hithu replied. i adv u to b little smarter, as this is a matter of ur child, i dont know that u r in touch with ur SIL or not but as u written she is nice in front of u then u shuld also pretend to b nice to her and so on, as she stays near ur house ,ask her to visit oftenly to check ur maid and see ur son in ur absense, please her by giving her some nice gifts in rakhi and be nice to her kids also as they also come to visit may b ur prb little solve by it try it all the best sakshi replied. Hi hithu
All mothers working out are facing the prob u hav mentioned, trust me even I have same \" I dont wants\" as u hav written, so wat i did is (tho my son is 3+)i hav enrolled him in day care, wat u can do is find a day care which is ofcourse gud for baby n allows ur maid too so that the infant can get her personal attention which is supervised by day care people. Gud luk