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My co-sister had lied about me that I shared all my contempt and hatred on my in-laws ,with her as much as she had.She used my name and lied before everyone that I shared all my bitterness and hard feelings with her.I was devastated by this as she had put me in a completely uncomfortable situation before my husband.I cried lonely as I could not prove my innocence since evryone believed what she said.I was emotionally tortured by her fake confessions and evryone' s sarcastic remarks and long lessons.
And now she' s trying to call me ,don' t know for what new reason,everytime when everybody leave home.This is a new torture for me.I was so much disturbed by her behaviour and decided not to talk to her again.
If I say I don' t want to talk to her anymore,I know she' ll create some other new story around me to make me a victim.And that is why I' m not even answering her calls.I went through a lot of emotional toil because of her.My husband who very much loves me,is disturbed by this.Though he didn' t question me for all this(that' s the happiest part of all,atleast he understood me),I had to struggle hard to prove my innocence.God forbid this situation.But I now understand that a person' s face is never the index of his /her mind.
But does it make sense that I answer her calls inspite of the damage she had done in my life? michelhain replied. its really too sad .. just avoid her

rimi replied. Just ignore her and be yourself, I will tell you it really do wonders, If a person tries hard and is ignored they only get frustrated and won' t bother you. And be bold enough don' t cry, don' t look timid in front of others, nobody can harm you. Read some self-help books and gain confidence. Join some courses and develop a hobby, or if you can just of to job. Some sick minded people are there, you have to face them. If nothing works, come face to face record her conversations with a tape recorder, and and show to her husband, your in-laws, and take lot of confidence of your husband, if torture is too much please move of the place and do a separate house. hp replied. I would shortly join a function in my family where all involved in my problem may turn out.I don' t understand how to manage infront of each and every person.My co-sister may also come and my in-laws too.If I talk to her on a casual note ,not letting her heinous acts and false proclamations affect my attitude,Then there is a possibility my ILS may feel otherwise.And if I don' t talk to her everyone will start wondering why.Coz nobody else in my family knows anything about the whole thing.How should I manage the situation?I' m worried if my relatives talk to her ,my ILS may misunderstand the situation.Hope everything goes on fine. anonymous replied. hi,
I know what u are going thru.it happens with all of us all the time when we trust people without knowing them too well. Ur SIL is a smart women no doubt but somwhere even u made the mistake of trusting her.The best that you can do in this situation is talk to your husband and tell him about what you are going through.I am sure he will be able to help you out.Also learn to take charge of situations rather than run away from them. I think you should take your Sil' s call and talk to her as if nothing is wrong but remember never to disclose anything personal to her ever.Just keep ur relation with her politically correct.Like when she calls u take her call say hi hello talk general things and then very politey tell her you are busy and will call her back.At times u can ignore her calls. Also don' t worry about her ruining your name or misusing u.We can only control our actions and not others. Let her do whatever she wants after all whatever we sow we have to reap one day and i am sure most of the people in ur house are very much aware of her behaviour.Just keep ur eyes and ears open when she is around. donot show her that u r scared of her. Remember not to trust anyone with your family details until and unless u r sure of them last but not the least keep ur husband informed of all her activities, so that whenever she tries to create problems for you, he can support u.Cheers!no one can make you feel bad unless u want to feel bad.