Relationships  Discussion Forum

Hi,

Please someone give some advice. To start with, I live in UK with husband and my BIL and his wife stays in India.
My husband and me are quite settled in UK and in India my BIL doesn’t have any job and his wife is working really hard to stay on her toes to support her family.
Her husband (BIL) in not educated but she is has a degree. They have done love marriage, but now its more of leaving together just sake of their little daughter.
My real brother helped my BIL to get a job, but with his hot temper and tantrums, he left the job though knowing that it would to difficult for him to get another one (no edu). And now its almost 6 months he has no job, and not even trying to get one, his wife is in real distress. I asked my husband why don’t you ask one your friends in India to give your brother a job, u wont belive what he said…he said ..his brother bring shame to my name front my friends because of his tantrums and temper.
We tried all possible things to make him understand importance of working & listening to boss, but no use. They live with my FIL & MIL, who have soft corner for him and give him pocket money. but they don’t understand they ruining his life. (since my MIL is working)
How do I help BIL’s wife? i feel bad for her and what she going through.
rkpatel replied. Dear K Mrunal,

Although CRITICISM is not ADVICE,still I would like to tell all women that they are REALLY-STUPID,because THEY ARE PHYSICALLY AS WELL AS EMOTIONALLY DEPENDANT.

Therefore my ADVICE to not only ANY-WOMAN,but also ANY-HUMAN for that matter would be that LEARN TO RELY ON YOURSELF.

Although it is EASIER said than DONE,my ADVICE to any-human would be that BE INDEPENDANT.

Although PHYSICALLY WE-HUMANS MIGHT BE LIVING TOGETHER UNDER ONE ROOF or on this PLANET-EARTH,BUT PSYCOLOGICALLY WE ARE ALONE..!!

My OBSERVATION of almost all our RELATIONSHIPS is that,they are either BARTER,TRADE,PARTNERSHIP or BUSINESS.

LOVE IS CARE.

To LOVE IS TO CARE FOR THE OTHER.

But REALLY WE DO NOT LOVE or CARE FOR the OTHER,because WE LOVE OR CARE OR GIVE or DO SOMETHING for the OTHER,but WE ALWAYS WANT SOMETHING BACK IN RETURN

GOD' S-LOVE ALWAYS REMAIN CONSTANT FOR EVERYTHINGS and EVERYBEINGS.

So GOD' S-LOVE IS STANDARD,MEASURE, DATUM etc.

Therefore,HUMAN-LOVE IS ALWAYS COMPARED WITH GOD' S-LOVE.

Because OUR-LOVE,LIKE GOD' S-LOVE IS NOT SELFLESS or UNSELFISH,therefore ALL OUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE EITHER BARTER,TRADE,PARTNERSHIP,BUSINESS etc.

Think about that for a moment..!!

rkpatel,
wn,nz.