Relationships  Discussion Forum

its so sad to read of so many problems with relationships and especially in laws for the wife...
am also stuck in one such problem.plss try to advice me something.we are in U.S.my in laws are in india in our place...they r forcing us to buy a house in india...they say they r ready to bear a part of the cost also now..so that we re pay it later..am fine with all this..but the problem lies with my hubby...he just listens to whatever his mom says .. leave alone house buyingg....but he does ask me my opinion as well before anything...but why can' t he just take my opinion instead of his mom' s. his mom also tells him to tell me everything and consult with me also. but i just want her to not give any opinion anyway...this issue is bothering me.
how do i handle this Mel replied. I don' t think your MIL is the problem. I think your Husband is the problem. You can' t ask her NOT to give her opinion. She is his mother. And it' s fair enough that she asks him to also discuss and consult with you. That' s very good on her part.

The problem is that your husband should take advice from her, but listen to it only if both of you agree. If you can solve that problem, then there is no issue. tanya replied. do u have a house in the US? r u here to stay permanently or go bk to India after some time? I think u need to tell your husband that we need to buy a house here as well in the US plus pay towards your inlaws house which would b a lumpsum anyways. make sure your husband' s name is on the home which inlaws will buy. so when u get a house in US buy an expensive one so the mtg payments r high and there is less money going to the inlaws cos if they r asking now for money when they already live in your place(assuming your house in india) they will come bk for more on one pretext or the other in the future. i think as long as the house is in your name in india u sb fine since atleast they wont bother u here - meaning come and stay with u in the US. so buying them a house u r actually investing for your future as well and make them happy as well. atleast the money would b accounted for. some inlaws keep asking for money and never explain where it all goes. u got to make sure that the money u give is towards the house.