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Anyone of you have good experience with your MIL taking care of you during your delivery process? Especially when you have a toddler already. I have no option other than inviting my MIL to US for my delivery and I have a toddler. I don' t have great relation but I have no choice. Just wanted to be careful what do I need to be prepared fo. Mel replied. I have to say ' Hats Off to R' . You have done the most sane, logical thing. A lot of women think that since it is a difficult time, the ILs may help, but more often than not, they are anything BUT helpful, and having them around only adds to emotional and mental turmoil.

I think what you did is ideal. So, even if they did come down, it wouldn' t have been that... You needed our help, we have come to help, and look at the outcome.... and blah blah blah.

I did the same thing. I didn' t let my ILs get involved. They could come and visit and spend time with my kid. But, tomorrow they cannot turn around and say, We Paloed your kid... and all that nonsense. R replied. 1 1/2 years back, I delivered my 2nd baby and at that time my elder son was not even 3. My parents were not able to come this time because of health problem. I did not ask my in-laws to come and they didn' t tell me that I should not worry or they would come and take care of us.
We tried to keep one Indian lady for one month but that did not work out. Finally we were bringing tiffin once a day from an Indian lady. And using use and throw plates.

So they never told me that I didn' t call them otherwise I would have told them you never told me that you are there for me when I needed someone. They might be feeling guilty now, but I had mental peace at the time of changing hormones and emotional roller coaster.
This was my story. You make your own decision.