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my inlaws were visiting us in the US like they do every summer. b4 i got married i saw piles of clothes stacked up in the laundry rm- hubby had 1 bedrm at the time. now that we have a house my hubby thinks the guest room belongs to them. they leave their shoes and clothes every visit annually...i asked hubby to pack them in a suitcase and put them in the bsmt...and he did so last yr and the year b4 that but this time he put away some clothes in bsmt and for the remaining he did their laundry after they left and put them in the closet in the guest room. is it normal for inlwas to do so cos i had a fight and he said that his sister' s FIL also leaves his clothes in her house(she lives in US too)...but he visits for 6 months splitting time between my SIL and her FIL' s other son. bus hak jamane wali baat hain...what do u guys think??? Sheila replied. Look at it from a logical point. They visit every year. They come for a long stay. I am assuming they are coming down from India and even if they are not, wouldn' t it be easy on them with traveling & packing ? Also they might need different types of cloths depending on where you live and no use for it otherwise.

Do you use your guest room for other guests or any other purpose ? Then you can clean them up and put them away as you did before. Since you have a basement you can always ' hide' things away.

My mom even has her toothbrush waiting for her next visit at our house. I put all away after their visit, cleaning all the cloths and putting toiletories away in a box. When they come back, I have it all out for them, neat & clean and they love it. My mom brings more cloths & doesn' t throw anything & then I get annoyed - but that is a whole different issue :)

It just makes sense. I don' t want them, specially at their age, to haul luggages while visiting their own family. I am not sure what is ' normal' but I think it is more practical.

Take care

jahnavi replied. Hi Tanya!
I read ur mesg. i dnt knw wat kind of relationship u have with ue in-laws. as an outsider its always easy to give suggetsions but one who deals can understand things better. anyways, i would like to say that the matter dat u mentioned is really a trivial issue. pls. do not disturb peace and love among u too for such a thing. kitne saal hak jatayenge aur. Look at the positive side, agar woh humesha aapke sath hi rehte to kaise manage karte. yeh to sirf kapde hai na. ab woh gaye to bsmnt mein rakh do next time jab woh aane wale ho to phir se wahi closet mein jama ke rakh dena. woh bhi khush. aur hak jatate hai to jatane do na. sirf khush karo sabko tabhi khud ko khushi milti hai. This is wat i have learned from my Ratna Bhagwan my guruji.
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