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I live in banglore.and my would-be husband is in singapore currently.after our marriage which is jan 2009 we plan to settle down in pune. This is because of our decison.but wat had happened is once my would b had mentioned that his mom wants us to stay out of bangalore simce most of our relatives our here. And initially atleast for 2 years we should be away is wat she had told her son. So that they don’t keep a close watch on us.His parents are in north(near delhi). I understand that this is very nce of them to think like this. .otherwise,they are generally nice ppl. No major issues created in the marriage arrangements till now. But I am wondering wat could b the other implications,if u ppl could see some other perception in her thinking tanya replied. Do u live with your relatives in blore? R u working in blore and that’s the reason why u r there? Well I understand that since both your relatives & your inlaws side r there in blore its better to move from there and get a fresh start in Pune…away from relatives…2 years is probably a good time for you and your husband to bond….theres a possibility that your MIL does not have a good reputation in blore with your FIL’s relatives and they might start filling your ears…maybe that’s why MIL wants u out. Or it could b genuine…since they live near delhi where jobs r scarce…and want to give u space....am sure there r nice people out there tanya replied. i understand that she wants u out of b' lore...probably cos u have too many relatives over there & freinds as well...where r your parents and siblings....if they r all in blore then a typical saas would want u out of there...normal....but if she has her husband' s (your future FIL) family in blore it means that she does not get along with her inlaws and does not want u to ever find out...if your FIL' s family is in delhi and delhi is not an option for u to settle down...then again your future saas does not want u to know the inner secrets of your sasural by keeping u away....it depends where your saas' s husband' s family resides and where your parents are...i have typical inlaws so i tend to be negative....it could b all for positive reasons as well...dont know your entire background...maybe your husband got a real good job offer etc...knows people in Pune and so on