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Hope you will care to help me.

I have light complexion by birth but as i got older i got dark like sanwali. I want to get comeplexionn as it was by birth. I am a teen and i dont have alot of time to do home remedies. i tried honey + lemon to make skin fair for 2 months but it did not work for me.

Please give me simple remedy to make the skin lighter that i can do dialy and have lighter and fair skin.

I also need some remedy to make something to lighten the body too. Is it possible to make a homemade oil or lotion or something to make the body fair? Please tell me how to make my body fair.

I tried gooseberry as you suggested to someone to make lips pink it did not work and i preveously have tried beetroot. It only gives color to lips like lipstick were to. I need something to lighten the lips please.

I am so frustrated seeing pakistani girls with fair complexion while mine is dark. Please tell me how to become fair. I dont feel like even having a social life anymore because i think i am ugly. Please help me become fair. Shanna replied. Priya,
You hit the nail on the head by writing this. I can't believe all these young girls are so hung up on having fair skin. They need to have self confidence and need to make the best out of what they have. I am so surprised to see all these girls want is fair skin.
I have dark skin and never once I felt like I am any less attractive then girls with light skin. Infact, I think we (dark skin) girls look much healthier then them pale looking fair skin girls. I am happily married and infact, my husband is much lighter then I am and NO, he doesn't care about the skin color. What really matters is whats in your heart.
Thanks once again for posting the very positive answers.
You are the best and we all love you.
Shanna PJP replied. dear fareena,

i really dont know if my answer to your problem is going to please you, but, i feel its very essential i tell you this.

have you ever thought how pathetic those fair skinned people would look if they were sun tanned or became dark?

what you have not realized is the beauty inside you. you have not realized or tried to make the best out of what you are now. you have not seen how beautiful you can look with just this type of skin. just a small example of how a person has been able to realize one's beauty within is mallaika arora khan. do you know who she is? she was a plain seedha-saadha VJ. she is dark with sanwali skin. but she made best use of her beauty. she would have looked pathetic with that skin. but she has brought out the best of her skin colour. she has not tried to change her skin colour, istead made alterations with the same to make herself look beautiful if not glamorous.

sometimes a good hair cut and a hair do can make you look more beautiful than ever. i suggest you try this for me once. just once. if you are still not happy, fine, then i will give you a solution. but try this: go to a renowned beauty salon and get a face lift done- have a good and practical hair cut done. go for a good facial that would remove all the dead skin and exfoliate the skin making it look fuller and freseher. get suggestion of a practical make up that you can use everyday. shop for a dress in which you will look fabulous. once on the road, lift your head high and walk giving no attention to any fair skinned dame out there. wear your attitude- the right attitude that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. feel you are beautiful. feel it from within and feel sorry for any fair skinned woman you see for how dirty she can look with a sun tan or dark skin and how lucky YOU are! fareena, fairness doesnt mean beauty, dear. make the best use of what you have , dear. fareena, please see the beauty that you have. throw away that thought of yours that you are ugly. if you feel you are ugly, you are. if you feel you are not, you are not. if your attitude is wrong, no matter what you try to undo it, you will not be able to. do you think by getting a fair skin the so called 'ugliness' will vanish? its only your thought that is making you feel ugly. the reality is that YOU ARE NOT! you have to realize hoq beautiful you are and how beautiful you can make yourself further still. this is all i can say.

and for the beetroot that you have tried, little do people see its internal effect. while it nourishes the skin and blood vessels within, nobody knows of it, because one may just think that it just reddens on the surface as they 'see' it. do you think all that beetroot has is the red colour- only a dye? it has no medicinal property? if it is only giving you redness, if it has no nutrition, then why is it consumed as a health supplement? think, fareena. in due course, on prolonged usage, it will bring the natural colour. things have to cured from within not from the surface. the temporary redness can be scrubbed off. thats not what you require. the beetroot is working within, and that you do not see. and gooseberry will work as well. but it will take some time. it wont happen in a jiffy. patience is very important. all english medicines cure immediately, but the problem recurs. whereas with natural treatment, it takes a lot of time to get cured- may test your patience and confidence- but the cure is permanent and effective. if you have the patience, dear, then try the same. but if you are not happy with those then try unsalted butter/ thick milk cream mixed thoroughly with honey and crushed apricot. apply the mixture and leave it for an hour and scrub off. need to do this atleast for a month or two.

all the very best.
all my love,
priya.
Jo Prabhu replied. Hi,

I am a licensed Cosmetologist in the US and since 1989 have experience working with world renowned plastic surgeons and dermatologists.

I also know about medical procedures first hand because I had acne scars which were removed with dermabrasion and my new skin color was 5-6 shades lighter than the old one.
We are all unhappy with ourselves in some way or other but unfortunately our skin color is determined by our genes. Sun damage and exposure, including the use of certain drugs can also darken your skin.

I am certain you will not find a professional anywhere in the world to lighten your entire body, however, the good news is that there are peels or laser procedures to lighten the skin on you face, neck and perhaps even your arms. I am assuming you are from India and don't know if Dermatologists in India work on your arms.

I would encourage you to seek the advice of a licensed and Board Certified dermatologist who has been trained in the US if you can find one.
For starters, they may reccommend either a home based glycolic ('phyto' or plant based) professional product that you can use on a regular basis which 'sloughs' off the old skin to generate new, lighter skin growth, or they can perform a light or heavy laser skin peel which is a procedure that removes 3-4 upper layers of skin promoting brand new skin growth which is a few shades lighter than the old skin.

You MUST however have this procedure performed by an Board certified Dermatologist or a Plastic Surgeon who has plenty of experience performing these procedures.
Do not allow any one at a Beauty Salon to peel your face or neck. The results could be disastrous. Also do not try to 'shop' for a 'Cheap' doctor. Find and get the best, most qualified MD. The better ones are usually more expensive, but it is worth the extra money.

Home remedies as you have found, unfortunately do not produce results similar to professional products which have been formulated after years of research. Beetroot will stain the lips temporarily as does mendhi or haldi (saffron)applied to skin.

Please remember that skin color is not a reason to feel ugly. Most Pakistani's have middle eastern/European/Persian genes which are for the most part fair skinned.
But skin color does not determine your beauty or who you are as a person. You will need to concentrate and work on your other attributes which I am sure you possess.

And remember, people neverjudge you or see the flaws you perceive in yourself. They accept you for who you are as a person regardless your skin color.
My father once told us never to forget this saying: Don't complain about not having the right shoes because there are people who have no feet.
Take care and good luck!. Let me know if you need any more information.