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Hi frds,
i am stuck with a monster in law..i feel she is the most wicked person..i stay abroad with hubby and child..married since 3 yrs. i am well qualified professional and resigned 2 b with hubby..MIL has said such things as:
maine tumhe kharida hain(though my parents beared marriage expenses)
this child is not my son' s(though she said sorry afterwards in front of son)
she has done so many zhagdas.always says horrible things and taunts
tells her son tht she is good for nothing
says horrible things abt my parents-v v bad things
yest was my marriage anniversary.we were goin out and ev year she calls up and says tht did my son remember abt his anniversary
after tht we fought n didnt eat nething
hubby says tht i always complain
i cant discuss with ne1
now ILs r plannin 2 come here.if they come 2 stay with us, i dont think i will remain sane
sometimes i feel shes a ugly witch
pls help me and suggest somethin so tht they wont come here.ur replies is my only hope.

Swapna replied. Hi RR and all others,

this a humble request to you all to please type in good english that we are familiar with.

just a request..rest is your choice :-)
good luck to all. Ritika replied. ok..tell us again as to why are they coming??

You don' t get along with her...she is causing strife in your marital life...she abuses you and your parents like anything...did I miss something here?

Just because they are planning does not mean that they need to come...just talk to your husband and say that now is not a good time...maybe next year...

Build up a good relationship with your husband and remember one thing VERY clearly. Do NOT fight with your husband over your in-laws or his in-laws. That' s a sure fire way to trouble...if his mom calls up..let him talk...just go out of the room for a while...since it was your anniversary, what you should have done was ignored that woman...and enjoyed yourself with your husband instead...

However what you did was allow that woman to have control and power over your emotions and actions...

You want your husband to join you in agreeing that his mom is bad...not gonnna happen...please understand that it is hard for kids to insult their parents..however much they understand the reasons behind it...the first instinct is to defend...

So in future, do not do this mistake again...

Your husband is responsible for his own actions...not his mom' s...Do not hold him responsible for it...if he is behaving ok with you otherwise, I would concentrate on that first...

When you talk to your MIL, put her on speaker phone so that your hubby is aware of how she talks to you. The moment she starts insulting you, tell her that I cannot listen to you abusing me or my parents and walk away from her.

Hope this helps...

Ritika monika replied. Look at the bright side. They are coming for only a visit. So let them come . But be firm & do not hear anything against your family or yourself.
If they want to make amends , give them a chance. see how it goes, maight not be as bad as u think.
i feel for u RN.