hi all,
i just finished talk with a good friend of mine. and we were talking about eachother babies. and when she asked me about nirja i told her about her developments. and then i asked her about her baby who is just same age of nirja.. and after that she kind of felt bad that her dd is not walking..i told her babies are different and that nirja too started walking just past 10 days only,,and gave her tips that i used for nirja,,,
and i felt as if she got offended..i dont know, i thought prob by doing that, she will be happy that i too want her daughter to c walking. and being a close friend of mine, she will take the tips just the way i am open to ask her nething..
but i dont understand why does she compare nirja with her baby. i dont know how to deal with it. its tough for me.. i dont compare nirja with her daughter or neone, her dd speaks mummy,daddy and all,she is excell in that,,my dd is differently growing.,.i dont feel that,,why does she take it that way..
also it happens this with relatives..my sil too keeps doing that ! her boy is 2 year old,,dont know wats logic in comparing 2 year old with 10 months !!!!

can neone throw some inputs on this..ne comments, suggestions, ideas...would appreciate.

its tough for me all the time,,sometimes because of this, i dont want to share about nirja growth,,often people take it that way,,how you guys deal with it. or handle it or share it..
does it mean that i m not supposed to share with neone !!!!
i dont know, how to handle this! and it just boils my mind. Bhairavi replied. Hi Hetal,

This is Bhairavi here, mom of 11 month old Anika. Would you share the tips you were talking abt with us. My dd cruises, and stands momentarily for couple of seconds. I am in no hurry.. but I dont mind in trying out something new..

love to all kids,
Regards,
Bhairavi. Priya replied. I have the same thing happening with my son my dh mami is always comparing Dylan to her grandson who is 2 months younger almost at times feels like she i showing that they are better at raising the grand child then us and always giving tips which they dont use themselves. But this is a gfact like seema said they will be compared till they are married and who knows maybe after tthat. It is natural for mothers to compare babies similar to their kids age...they just want to know whether there babies are healthy and doing what others are..just natural even though we know all babies r different you cannot help but worry. some babies r fast some and slow doesnt mean they will be like that forever. I really get annoyed with the mami but really can say anything as they are elders .my mum added that even though elders act like children and compare the children are so innocent that they always have love for each other in the middle of all this.
Priya seema replied. hi hetal,
it happens 2 me many times.i ignore talks about babies whenever i talk to such people. we often tend to speak of our kids whenever someone talks of theirs.it comes naturally.
it is not our wish to make them feel but often they feel it.my baby,nishant doesnt blabber or talk at all but he walks very well and has all his front teeth on both the jaws. but that does not mean that i am trying to show that. if they think it that way we cant stop them to think that. at the most we can stop talking about our babies or only when asked.
my mil does that everyday. she compares it with her elder sons'kids.
i just ignore her.
dont worry about it. its common and welcome to motherhood
this will keep happening all the time, until they get married.i think my mil will not stop after that too.