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Waiting to try:Why do we need second kid??

2005-09-06

Name: baba Its might sound supertialficial, but I am wondering why do we need second kid. When I look around, I feel guilty of bringing one more life in this world which is all surrounded with resource ( not only oil which would be gone in next 20-30 years), terrorism,
My wife is convincing me about second child but I do not get a sencible reason for second kid. I already have a 6yr old daughter. We are in Boston USA, if it matters for the discussion.
Please discuss this or point me to the appropriate forum.
Thanks
Baba

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Its might sound supertialficial, but I am wondering why do we need second kid. When I look around, I feel guilty of bringing one more life in this world which is all surrounded with resource ( not only oil which would be gone in next 20-30 years), terrorism,
My wife is convincing me about second child but I do not get a sencible reason for second kid. I already have a 6yr old daughter. We are in Boston USA, if it matters for the discussion.
Please discuss this or point me to the appropriate forum.
Thanks
Baba lisa replied. There are many reasons why people want more than 1 kid. Some couples simply love kids, after their experience with the first kid. Some feel that having siblings would share and help each other after the parents are gone. Some in India feel that having many kids would be helpful to the parents in the old age.

But many Indian couples are copying Western lifestyle where comfort and ease and luxury all more important and having a child would put a dent to all that. In fact if you are living in the US, I wonder you why you want have any kids at all? THose kids would never give the love and consideration and respect to their parents not to mention the huge expense of college education. No winder western couples are hesisitant to have any kids. sonu replied. hi,

i was also thinking the same way till few days ago.My daughter is 16 months( caeserion 1).so being getting pregnant n bringing another baby was horrifying me.n also thinking like u y to bring another baby , but then me n my husband got a heavy argument few days ago.he explained me that each n every indiviual should face all relationship which nature made for us.like husband-wife,brother -sister,etc.we enjoyed the sibling relationship so y we are restricting our baby not to enjoy that.if u r not affording than ok .but if yes than only for the baby sake their should be 2nd baby.another thing single babies are more posseive,arrogant,noncaring,dont like to share things.once theirs another baby they change alot.they become more caring n responsible.
we had experienced it.

i dont know u agree or not.its only my view.
thanks
sonu

2005-09-07

Name: lisa
Subject:

There are many reasons why people want more than 1 kid. Some couples simply love kids, after their experience with the first kid. Some feel that having siblings would share and help each other after the parents are gone. Some in India feel that having many kids would be helpful to the parents in the old age.

But many Indian couples are copying Western lifestyle where comfort and ease and luxury all more important and having a child would put a dent to all that. In fact if you are living in the US, I wonder you why you want have any kids at all? THose kids would never give the love and consideration and respect to their parents not to mention the huge expense of college education. No winder western couples are hesisitant to have any kids.

2005-09-06

Name: sonu
Subject:

hi,

i was also thinking the same way till few days ago.My daughter is 16 months( caeserion 1).so being getting pregnant n bringing another baby was horrifying me.n also thinking like u y to bring another baby , but then me n my husband got a heavy argument few days ago.he explained me that each n every indiviual should face all relationship which nature made for us.like husband-wife,brother -sister,etc.we enjoyed the sibling relationship so y we are restricting our baby not to enjoy that.if u r not affording than ok .but if yes than only for the baby sake their should be 2nd baby.another thing single babies are more posseive,arrogant,noncaring,dont like to share things.once theirs another baby they change alot.they become more caring n responsible.
we had experienced it.

i dont know u agree or not.its only my view.
thanks
sonu

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