Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I am getting married in a few months and both me and my wife are not sure of the DOs, DONTs, how to avoid a child by still not using condoms.

Could someone please help us with your thoughts. krsna replied. hi..

like archie said - no days r safe (if u r not using condom / bcp)

but i'll tell u this out of my experience :
we used to avoid intercourse (but still have intimate experiences) between the 12th and 18th day of my cycle (the first day of my period being day 1); my cycles were pretty regular @ 29/30 days; we didnt use any bcp/condoms.. and were still able to avoid conception for 18 months;

but its just a matter of chance.. u know; one cannot be certain of any outcomes this way; in our case, we didnt want to start a family but were not averse to the idea either - so it was ok;

ask ur wife to talk to a good gynec;

good luck
krsna archie replied. Hari,

You want to wait before trying? This is why you want to know how to protect while enjoying married life. I think your subject title was mileading and therefore Sanjana mentioned to you that you choose a wrong board.

Sanjana, it's OK to ask question on contraceptives, it's part of waiting to try. What is waiting to try? It's the time when you prepare yourself for trying to conceive, means want to know about basics and contraception is not bad as to learn basic behind ttc process. So do not get upset on Hari for asking this query. I think his query was sane and came out of anxiety that he is just getting married and want to wait before getting in to parenthood. I don't blame him. This is right place to put this query.
I am certain had he asked this query on sx board he would get all un-necessary and ugly responses.

Hari, it depends on why you don't want to use Condoms. Besides, condoms are not 100% protective against pregnancies, I know many who got pregnant even using condoms. there are many hormonal conctraceptives available and your spouse can take them for which you need to refer her to a gynecologist to get BCP (Birth control pill). perhaps that will be good choice to both of you. When you change your mind and want to have child then stop using birth control pill and try 2-3 cycles after taking off bcp.

If you don't want to use condom and she does not want to take bcp then we are helpless as we know no days is safe while you don't know anything as to how the cycles of your spouse are, and what not.

Good luck for entering in new adventure of life.

Archie sanjana replied. Hari,

This is a serious board where people who want to have babies write in. this is not a sex board
U can go visit the sx board for ur queries.
This is not a board of how yo avoid a child but on the contrary a board discussing on hoe to have a child.

so understand the basic of the board before posting a nsg on it.
Sanjana