Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I am new to this forum and I am glad that Archie and many others are being giving good adivces to many members. I am confused and really don't know whether I am doing it right or not. I don't know if my hymen is tight or not because when my husband tries to penetrate inside me it pains me. Because of this I have put in my middle finger into the vagina a few times so that I don't get much pain during sexual intercourse. We are trying to conceive since the last two months. I feel that only the tip gets closer to the vaginal entrance and does not completely penetration inside. Is it possible to get pregnant even if your partner tip only has penetrated into the vagina. Is full penetration required in order to get pregnant during ovulation? I have heard in some forums that K-Y Jelly affect the sperms in some cases, is this true? If then, is extra-virgin olive oil safe to use around the vagina as I have heard in one of the forums? Kindly advise. TP replied. Hi there,

I think its more of psychological hinderance in both of your cases rather than some physical problem and it is not uncommon...so don't get tensed over this.

In my opinion, your problems may be related to the hymen , but it may also be linked with the vaginal spasm. Sometimes you can't instruct your body to perform a certain action even if your mind & heart want to do it. This involuntary contraction (spasm) of the lower vaginal muscles while having intercourse is often heard of among newly married women. The tightening of vaginal muscles makes the penetration difficult and causes pain. You have to tell yourself that it is not going to hurt you, it won't cause any pain. Remember girls- Intercourse is for pleasure, not for any pain.

What you girls can do is relax & set a romantic mood before making love. Trust me , the mood, the atmosphere make the difference- it helps increase your natural secretion and thus makes the penetration easier. Kegel's exercises also helps to develop control of vaginal muscles. In some cases alcohol also works( but can't be advised for those who are trying to get pregnant). In addition to the above, you must lubricate yourself enough....it is true that KY jelly etc are not sperm friedly, so you can try \";Pre-seed\"; lubricant- I have heard that it is supposed to be sperm friendly and suitable for those who are ttc. I am not aware of olive oil.

Though it is not common but yes, it is possible for a woman to become pregnant without full penetration, but Drs always recommend full penetration to maximize chances of pregnancy. In full penetration, sperms have to travel less in the vagina, the cervix can suck up them easily ( many sperms die in the acidic enviornment of vagina) and more & more sperms have an easy access to the egg, hence more the chances of fertilzation .

And do check your ovulation, cervical mucus and basal body temperature and make sure that you have sex during your fertile period. These factors affect your chances of pregnancy.

And remember- you have only 15-20 % chances of pregnancy each month, even if you are fit & fine and keeping other factors in mind. So don't get upset if you don't succeed in the first 2-3 attempts.

Hope this will help !
Krithiga replied. Hi
I have the same issue as the original poster. I feel only a part of my hub is going in or is only at the tip. Didnt try any lubrication. Can somebody advise.