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Hi,
I had an arranged marriage and life was going good till last month. its been 2 and a half years. We stay with my in laws. They r very nice and understanding. So was my hubby.
Last week my MIL was in a bad mood and scolded me for something. My hubby never even bothered to react. When I asked him, he said dont listen to what they say. Ever since this happened... there has been lot of arguments between my husband and me. He always wants to enjoy life. Thats it. I m getting frustrated. Why should I get scolded from my MIL? After that my MIL apologised to me. But the relation between my husband and me is spoilt completely. He just wants to read the paper, browse the internet and work in office. He s not bothered about whats happening here. I even cried till midnight. He says, you are exaggerating things...I ve been brought up in a very calm family. But here people dont mind shouting at each other. I ve made lot of compromises staying here. But now, I feel sick of my marriage. I feel I should never have got into this troubles. Anything happens, my husband takes the decision. I m younger to him, but still, He need not decide everything in my life. I m very angry with my life. I am clueless on what to do... I m crying everyday as that s the only thing I can do. No one is bothered about me. I dont want to hurt my parents, so I laugh and live normally before them. My husband is just not bothered about my feelings. And the worst part is we have just decided to start a family. Am in a terrible mess... Can anyone tell me what to do? Rita replied. Swati,
I agree with what Nishant has said: \" You seem to be extremely pampered due to the fact that you cannot bear to hear a single word against you.\"

Remember MIL is your husband' s MOTHER. What do you expect? Would you like your husband to argue with your mother and that he expects you to take his side against her? Just think about it. You can' t expect your husband to turn against his parents or siblings.

Dear girl, you have to grow up. You are an adult. Stop whining. I don' t mean to be hard on you, but I have to shake you by your shoulders and tell you to get a grip on yourself.

You must ask yourself if you are being over-emotional and over-sensitive. If you were my sister or my daughter, I' d tell you to be strong, be brave, and be happy, not just for others around you, but mostly for yourself.
Your MIL was in a bad mood. Just it pass and hope that she' d be nicer afterwards. FORGIVE AND FORGET. That' s all you can do. Nishant replied. Swati,
I am sure you must have been taken aback by the sudden explosion of your MIL and more hurting than that was your hubby not trying to defend you. But, your description of the problem is not elaborate. You and your husband are quarreling everyday for the incident that happened more than a month ago? Was your husband reading paper, browsing net and working in office before this incident happened? Or did it start after the arguement? C' mon Swati, I am not asking you to bear ugly vouches everyday, but you need to develop a little tolerance. You seem to be extremely pampered due to the fact that you cannot bear to hear a single word against you.
Now, if there is more than what you said here that makes you depressed, I suggest you need to open up more or see your family psychologist for the best remedy. friend replied. Relax , you yourself said that your inlaws are nice and understanding. so why this tension, in your own word you said that your MIL scolded you coz she waas in bad mood and she apologised you.she does not scold you all the time then you should be ok, read the stories here how much we go through day to day life, after getting scold we are asked to apologised to our MIL you are lucky to have nice family enjoy and take it easy as your husband said.