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Waiting to try:can't break the hymen!!! :(

2005-08-09

Name: n r hi! we got married 9 months back. Problem is we still ahven't done it! My husband and i have the best relationship one can imagine (touchwood) and we also have a very happy sex life, but when it comes to really doing it and breaking the hymen, it hurts a lot for me. I'm really worried now, we have seen a gynac, but she just gave a jelly and said to try. I don't think she took me seriously when i said i can't! what do i do? is hymenectomy an answer, does anyone know about it? does it hurt, will we be able to ahve kids, and if at all is there any way that we can still do it without it hurting so much?? :( and is this normal at all???? :( I'm very depressed and very worried. pls help!

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hi! we got married 9 months back. Problem is we still ahven't done it! My husband and i have the best relationship one can imagine (touchwood) and we also have a very happy sex life, but when it comes to really doing it and breaking the hymen, it hurts a lot for me. I'm really worried now, we have seen a gynac, but she just gave a jelly and said to try. I don't think she took me seriously when i said i can't! what do i do? is hymenectomy an answer, does anyone know about it? does it hurt, will we be able to ahve kids, and if at all is there any way that we can still do it without it hurting so much?? :( and is this normal at all???? :( I'm very depressed and very worried. pls help! i replied. dear i too had the problem but the thing is i was scared to do it..& i wud never let him.So had to meet the Dr.for irregular cycle so she did it for me as she understood it wont happen with me co-operating...dear from my experience am telling dont worry its just a feeling of mind that it will pain.
dont worry dear... hithere replied. Hi !

Dont worry at all... this happens sometimes when ur vagina tighetns automatically when penetration is abt to happen.. and so u feel more pressure and pain. used to happen when i got married too despite being very well lubricated. Just a jelly just does not work since the pain is wuite unbearable. What u shud do before considering an extreme solution like hymenoctomy is to try a mild local anesthetic. Try Xylocaine ointment on the area AND inside of the vagina ( apply with a clean finger just 5-6 mins before penetration. Then relax completely and go for it ! u may need to do this the first 4-5 times u ahave sex.. after that u wudnt need it anymore/..ALL THE BEST !!! ( PS this really worked for me.. so do give it a serious try ) shalini replied. you said that u have happy sx life it means u already went through penetration of ur vagina by ur partner if it is so then just use kY jelly everything will be ok

2005-08-13

Name: i
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hello

dear i too had the problem but the thing is i was scared to do it..& i wud never let him.So had to meet the Dr.for irregular cycle so she did it for me as she understood it wont happen with me co-operating...dear from my experience am telling dont worry its just a feeling of mind that it will pain.
dont worry dear...

2005-08-10

Name: hithere
Subject:

dont worry

Hi !

Dont worry at all... this happens sometimes when ur vagina tighetns automatically when penetration is abt to happen.. and so u feel more pressure and pain. used to happen when i got married too despite being very well lubricated. Just a jelly just does not work since the pain is wuite unbearable. What u shud do before considering an extreme solution like hymenoctomy is to try a mild local anesthetic. Try Xylocaine ointment on the area AND inside of the vagina ( apply with a clean finger just 5-6 mins before penetration. Then relax completely and go for it ! u may need to do this the first 4-5 times u ahave sex.. after that u wudnt need it anymore/..ALL THE BEST !!! ( PS this really worked for me.. so do give it a serious try )

2005-08-09

Name: shalini
Subject:

hello

you said that u have happy sx life it means u already went through penetration of ur vagina by ur partner if it is so then just use kY jelly everything will be ok

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