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Hi,
Glad to read ur note. I think ur problems are exactly same as mine. Recently I too had my first big flight with my mil. i finally had to give back to her what she was giving me all these years. and what ur hubby tells u is exactly the same my hubby tells me. he tells me that since I have not made any effort in creating any relationship with his parents, I have to bear all their taunts. Believe me, I have sacrificed a lot for his parents sake but they keep taunting me how other DILS are so much better. I dont have any kids till now. its been 4-5 yrs since I marriage. I have now been trying to have kids coz I think atleast then my hubby will atleast come to visit them if I get separated from them.At times, i dont think I can live in this house for one more day. but just having patience. I dont know whats in store for me but I think I deserve all the happiness in the world. aa replied. hi Priya, thanks for your note! well let me tell you i have two kids, and i think my marriage is probably worse then before kids. mainly cuz my husb says i am so bad, raised so badly for talking back to il' s...but after giving birth, i had enough of my il' s blaming me, taunting me and yelling at me, so i yelled back at them. today i am stronger, and when they say something bad to me, i just dont reply, even though i would love too. i have changed a little, they are still the same, i just dont let them hurt me as much. but when my il' s visit or call, they lie to my husb, and so he fights with me....they are ruining their sons life, and they just dont care...since my mil lies ALOT , my husb always trys to rescue her and make her happy. I would love to leave, but i' m sure that my husb would want the kids half the time, and i really cant let a women that hates me(my mil) have a hand in raising my kids, so for now i stay......, i just close my eyes and stay...before i had kids everyone told me that my husb will change for the better after kids, but like i said he hasnt changed and my marriage is worse.....yes i think you deserve to be happy, and i think i do too, but i am stuck here for now. sorry to sound so dramatic. take care of yourself, and keep in touch, hope fully talking about it helps you as much as it helps me.
aa