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hii
today i found out that i am pregnant
i already have a daughter and really dont want another daughter ,i dont know what to do .
i know u people will say nothing wrong jhaving 2 daughters but ask ur self would you want that happen to u (i am honest in my confession)
these days no one has 2 daughter it is just 2couples in 100 i thik all try some way to have another son aftyre one daughter
please tell me is ther any way i can know sex of the foetus before 12 weeks
please help me
sneha replied. thanks every body for replying and taking time to read my problem
i know iam also a woman and it sounds redicolus to some of you that i want a son
but sometimes it takes experience in life to realise that
i have many friends who had to sacrifice their career and their hobbies ,likes dislikes ,behaviour just to please their in laws ...why because they are daughter inlaws
i wonder when my daughter will get married will the world chance for us indians
that is oneof the reasons i dont want daughter
one of my friend has 2 sisters and both got married to unfortunately very
conservative families ,now thay dont let them talk to their parents ,and only visit them once in 2-3 years
i really pity those parents ..am i selfish if i dobt want to be like them

one of my friend is a doctor and now she is sitting in home ,taking care of her mil, fil,sil,and her kids
she wants to give usmle but how after so much of work,and to keep every one happy
am i wrong if i dont want my kids life to be like that
one of my neighbour is from up her father had to sell their house to give dowry to her and her sisters and still her inlaws give her comments and dont treat her properly.
i know it depends upon luck also but y is it that daughters suffer in indian socites and parents can do nothing for them ,i dont want to be one among those parents
i have so many examples i just dont want my kids to suffer like that and me looking helpless at them and crying

i know whe=ther it is a daughter or son my husband will be happy and i will love both but till they get setteled i will have to live with the hope that they geyt good inlaws
we cannot ignore the fact that we are indian sand in 25 years our society will not change radically Anju replied. In addition to what I have written below, I wud like to add - yest there is nothing wrong in craving for a son if you already have a daughter, but looking out for a way to know the sex of the foetus before 12 weeks, so that you can take measures to abort if its a girl is definitely a dreadful thing to think about. Its a sin ! a mom replied. Hello Sneha and Priya,
Read both of your mails.. when you said that the mothers who have the a boy as their first born can easily go and plan their next child.. i think you are wrong.. I have a son and am anxious to have a daughter.. you know daughters make great friends for their moms and i can see that my parents are really happy and proud with us (3 girls and no boys).. actually sometimes i do think that with all the chaos in dil and mil relationships they are happier without a boy..
and i really wish i would have a girl next time who would be my best friend.. and yes.. even if you have a girl this time.. think how both the sisters will go through their lives.. having a sister is really a boon..
so, cheer up now.. and hope that you have a healthy and happy child.. that is what really matters. :)
think positive and your child will be positive.. priya! replied. hi dear! I bless u a baby boy! Dont take any decision in hurry.It'll be a boy for sure.