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Hi people, i have wrote about my problems and still dont have answer for that. i just wanted to share with you whats happening in my life. My MIL and BIL as usual do a lot of hungama and drama..... shouting and this and that. my BIL after fighting stops eating food.. so MIL went to her home town as usual after fighting. she had earlier fought with me and this time with my BIL. I know he is psychic but according to my hubby he has all the justified reasons for my MILs and BILs behaviour. i actually dont care about it now but still he keeps on making me believe why this is happening. he says me to be happy and not take tesnsion about household work but as usual my MIL creates problem after one or two days and then here comes the turn of my BIL then. so same situation again and again..... she went and she is back becasue of my BIL becasue he did not eat for one week she was not here... now again mummy and two beta love has again started.

i need her because there should be some body to see my kid when i go to office. we dont want to keep him in creche as i went one day and was surprised that all the kids were sleeping in line and no cleanliness too and to say its one of the best creches in noida....

so situation is that i dont want to bother about these people anymore. if my doing work keeps this home happy for one year so that my BIL gets married, i have to do...so i just keep on doing household work nowadays and keep my self happy (excluding my hubby in this) by doing a walk or speaking to neighbor or going to parlor. and i have started teaching my maid so that she learns something and i too stay happy by doing some good work...

just wanted to share this info with you all. i know you people had given lotz of suggestions but the ground reality is that my MIL will never understand that life is something more than keep on doing household work and my BIL will not marry because he sees our condition after marriage and knows his mom will not adjust with his wife too. so just keeping the home happy till my BIL gets married, i have to keep on doing work and try to keep myself happy in this situation.

happysoul replied. hi suhani, i m new on this board and i gather from ur post i realised that my life is similar as yours. My Mil also throws these tantrums twice thrice in a month. She pressuirises my hubby not to have any kids as she wants that they shd a house first. I m approaching 30 and she thinks its not a big deal.I have had a miscarriage and she thinks' isi mein hi bhalai thi' ...My hubby had lost his father at a very young age so he has a soft corner for his mother..he always tell me to adjust and believe me i have made lots of sacrifices. she hates me when i dress up but one shd look at her the way she dresses up.she looks like she has no dukh in life and i m the one who looks some 40 year old. i had invited my parents to visit me in US but she tactfully told my parents not to come. My parents dn' t want to disturb my married life. i feel like not talking to her at all but kya karu.i feel frustrated all the time these days. i m a very happy person otherwise but this woman has made my life a hell. Dd replied. I undestand your pain and again sorry for being harsh to you in my previous post. but i did wrote back after you clarified you point of view. i have made some suggestions for you in that post so check it out again if you have not done so, and see if it can help you imrove your situation.
I really admire you for your strenght to stay & try to be happy in situations. May god help you & this new year brings lot of joy inyour life.
Dd
gg replied. wow...no in laws at home ..no mil at home for 31st...i am jealous...with u...
dont u think u can have good time with ur husband...
happy new year...we will talk about this later...
plsssss 4 get ur worries for 2 days have a nice time