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hope u are fine by now .. i was going to post a message for u as u were seen rarely

hey gg, whts happening to u? i have joined this board 6 mnths back n i always looked at u as very matured person n who have and can handle family problems skilfully

i m seeing this differnc in u since ur last post abt ur sil mentioning abt buying home n not inviting u

hey gg just cool down ... y r u making urself suffer? as i told u earlier ur sil have full right to think abt her future .. now whether she is involving u or no in that home is different questino .. ofcourse it hurts but do u know the reason why it is hurting u? bcoz u have given her so much of importance in ur life

let her go .. u dnt go acc. to her plans .. i dnt understnd her .. whether she is really thinking good abt u or she is planning to make u down in front of other ...

bt i feel she wont do this at the cost of taking IL' s with her ... rather she will stay with her husband alone .. God knows

bt u keep quiet and calm ... let her move ahead with her plans .. if ur MIL is going let her also go ... ur life vl b at peace, pls. dnt loose this opportunity for sake ego or wht is dnt knwo wht to say, as u feel tht u hve done so much for ur MIL n now she is going with ur SIL

infact take it positively that God have opened a happy door for u in 2008 ... dnt sacrifice ur happiness by thinking tht ur MIL takes care of ur dautghter ... u have lots of ohter options

if u want u can check with anyone in this board they vl give u the same reply

neither stop ur MIL nor ask her to stay with them .. pray to God, HE will arrange everything n things will go as for ur happy life

i dont want u to feel depress or irritated by all this ... aap apni ye man ki ashanti band karo ... it vl affect u ... u said, if ur MIL goes with her u can do anything .... pls. dnt take any wrong step, dnt say a word

y r u feeling as a lost battle, if ur MIL goes with ur SIL ... forget abt wht u did for her ... now its ur SIL' s turn

hoep u got my message

n sorry for the late reply as i cant access this section ... n pls. b the same as u were Dd replied. I was also wondering about the same things since few days and really happy to know your update. It is really sad to know about what happened to your co-sil.
Mainly its a fate which plays part in all of our lives. you get only what is written in you destiny. bcs if someone had said to me befor a year that i will be leaving separate from my inlaws in the same city, i would not have believed it at all. and it still hurts me a lot when i see my fil-mil suffering & working at this age(fil is 72 yrs & mil is 65 yrs.) But i can not do anything about it for now. and i was thinking since few days with whom i can share my this feelings bcs i can not talk about it with dh bcs he is also feeling same. but you & other firends on this board are here to listen to me. so i can vent my feelings.
yes, one of the good thing about this year that we found this site & new friends. so may this new year brings all the joy in our lives we deserve.
Wish you very happy new year.
Dd gg replied. thats so nice of u ...u rmbrd me ...n my prob...
i wanted to tell u all this but then i ddnt want all of u to think i am happy coz somehting bad hppnd to my sil....
god knows i am not happy...
but after my posts my sil was acting lil pricy with me...sorry with every1 at home..i knew the reason y it was like that ..but i thought about this problem a lot...i came to conclusion that when i had a tuff time with my mil i chose to keep my mouth shut ..then y the hell i am taking tension for such a small reason...my husband is there wih me...anyways we too were not on road...with gods grace we too can afford a house...i told myself keep ur mouth shut n just watch whatever is happening n pray to god...
my sil was buying a house from whatever savings the y had n rmng they were suppose to take a loan from the bank...
my sil earns more that her husband...
the news is she got fired from the job...
so is her plan of seperating has come to halt...
n she is at my place ....again very pally to me...
she takes care of my daughter.very well..harasses my mil...by not doing any work...
right nmow the situation at my home is bad ..my mil n sil are busy with eahc other ..i am not interfeign with amy1...coz i hv got the taste of everthing...let them all solve their pro bs...
previously i use to jump in their fight n try to solve the matter...
i take my sils(i have 3 small school going sil.husbnds sis.)my duahgter ..go out n enjoy with them...
touchwood i have no probs now..that is y i ddnt discuss any prob on this board...
thanks u so much for thinking about me so much...
right now i am in a very realxed state if mind..hope this lasts for this entire year..n forever...wish the same thing for all of u too...
may god bless all of u...