Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

archie,i think that ur reply to babli was a bit rude.look at some of the lines like 'Another thing, if you follow posts in last few days then you should only ask that you did not understand. The ingredients like tomatoes, potatoes, onions are so natural and why would you think to avoid them?????? Who is that great scientist proven their bad impact on pregnancy?'
' If you want to be bold then without putting concern go ahead an eat things.'

u may have a lot of reading and researching but not everyone is as \";hoshiyar\"; as u.there r girls out there who r not with their families in an important phase like pregnancy.many of them don't know many things.

i have gone thru this and so i know that in pregnancy and even while trying we r naturally concerned about the health of the baby and so on. so we ask even very simple things which may seem silly to u because u think that u r very learned.

i appreciate ur help to others but saying things like 'you should only ask that you did not understand.' is not good.a person usually never asks things that he/she has understood. it is only doubts that we ask.

i think u r feeling a bit proud of urself that u know more than others.but before giving out rude answers just think of others who do not know much.what if u were pregnant and someone told u not to eat something that u considered healthy?would u not ask that person what was wrong with it?would u like this type of answer?

please give polite answers. someone replied. my message is not trying to bring bad impact archie.i was just surprised to see someone knowledgeable like u say such a thing.

i am trying to bring to ur attention that u r needed by people.

anyway,how can u decide on ur own that she needed no suggestion?if that were true then she would never have posted any query to you.

see,that is what i am trying to tell u.that somebody's query might seem silly to u because u have the knowledge.but can u imagine what the other person is going thru?that is why they r coming to u for help.people who r stressed also need help.

u r saying that there r 100s of places to find information but many times (i myself have personally seen during my pregnancy) that there r so many different things on different sites.some will say 'eat this' some will say 'don't eat this'.some will say 'do this'.some will say 'don't do this'. here u offer good advise so people come to u.u should not turn them off just because u find their question silly.although silly, it may be important to them.

Archie replied. Dear someone,


I may sound rude but that's who I am and not different for \";Bubly\"; or anybody. Its that I try to do things in my way and certainly not that my style is going to suit to eachone here. Some will understand me and some will get offended.

I would not even think to reply to message like yours that's trying to bring bad impact. But I feel it's need to clarify points.

I try not to answer posts those I feel are coming out of anxiety and stress. I have learnt that there are a very few people who can work on their anxiety and stress, there are a few who take a little time and work on these two problems while there are a few who will not help to get over these two problems. I am not service to those who have over anxiety and hyperstress. Not that I don't feel bad for them or don't want to helpt but mainly because this is out of my expertise. I have learnt a lot on this site and thankful for that. I have met all above three categories people and feel happy to see some pregnant today and feel bad for some who have not helped themselves and even if biologically all is fine they have troubles.
No screen advise will help one to get over anxiety, stress and definitely not a solution for improving \";unexplained fertility\";.
I have not only been strong to Bubly but also to some other members here and with Gods grace people had a right spirit to understand or they were more polite than me to forgive my annoying response to their concerning post, I owe them in some manner.

I did not reply Bublies post at first hand and she posted again making me to comment on. The reason I avoided Bublies previous post was simple that I did not see any trouble with her case and seemed she needs no suggestion.

You must know dear someone that there are 100s of places where you can gather information on how to get pregnant and how to take care while pregnant, no one solitarily depends on one person, not even thier own OB/GYN and thanks internet for that.

After reading your post I only felt, I should have had some pride in my knowledge, at least I would have been acting like a big know.

I have been through all stages those you were referring.

I am thankful to you for brining this point and making me clear my side. I didn't know the help offered free of charge can get you in trouble and people could blame you still.

I am sorry that I know the subject, I am sorry that I try to help people with intention that it may make someones day and may make one to get there where they crave to. I am really sorry that I don't avoid posts those I should and respond only those are chosen people from my intuition.

Archie