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Hi,

I am married and have daughter. My husband is very meterialist and never understands family needs. I am always after him for family. Why like this. Marriage and family are for both husband and wife. He behaves like, his duty is only working. I am so meessed up in life being with this unhuman. I cann't live alone and I don't have any support. Preeti replied. I was thinking you can also find sometime for just the two of you. Going for walks...going for a picnic.
Sometimes guys feel neglected once a child is born because you end up giving the child all your attention. Guys can be babies too...they need your attention too. Preeti replied. Hi,

I think you have to have a serious talk with him. He might not be taking you seriously..thinking you'll forget next day. He works hard and that is tiring. If you want him to spend more time with you...then you will have to use a different approach....not nagging. Guys dont listen when you shout..they ignore you. Think of him as someone who provides for you..someone who works hard. Is there any romance in your life? Probably not as much. Think about how it was in the beginning when you got married. All the nice things you did for each other. Start doing those things again. Have a romantic dinner with him...just the two of you. The day you plan for this romantic dinner...in the morning you wake up earlier than him, leave a card on the pillow beside him or the dresser. In the card write something romantic that will remind him of you whole day....tell him that I would like to go for dinner with you..just the two you. Have someone take care of your child that night. Wear something he likes. During dinner try talking about things that make you both happy. No tension talks, it will spoil everything. Tell him though you're happy with all things he has given you but you miss him and that he his an important part of the family...that you're daughter is missing him. Ask him when is a good day for him to plan a family outing. Shouting and arguing and ignore your partner will never help your marriage. It's not a competition...its a relationship and just because you're married doesn't you have to stop working at it. You have to work at it everyday. Help him remember the wonderful person he married. Telling him you love him will make him feel wanted. simple replied. u r not alone dont get depressed!
Dont care too much for him and his words.Become quite and u too behave in same way.

behave like Just cooking and giving him stuff would do ur job as his wife.And nothing more u can do for him.
atleast u have ur daughter for support and love.He has none if u both ignore him right!
so ignore him as much u can and play with ur daughter and hug her ,kiss her and let her kiss and hug u...Both of u share love and affection toomuch when he is there around.
Definitely some day he feel like involving both of ur world. So get the spirit and confident that ur daughter is so important and none else.U can c change someday!!

If u were trying this by already continue it and may god bless with happiness!

But remember,It's in our hands to mould our life beautiful. No matter how ur hubby is! U just keep ur heart in ur control and believe in god to turn ur life as u wished ! But don't loose urself while trying for that!

Just be confident and get closer to ur daughter. ur friend replied. hi girl,
i am in the same position u are in. i too have a daughter and my husband is a business man. he also feels that only him giving money is all that he needs to do for us. and i should be happy and contented. it was painful but i learned to live with it. i live abroad too i dont have any family around me also. u know what i do, i go to the park in the evening with my daughter and i meet other mothers. try to make friend with them. i stoped surrounding my life around my husband. i started focusing on other things. i am going for music classes, i read novels. u know what when i stopped taking interest on him, he got worried and now he once in a way he take us out. so when u ignore he will worry and finally take interest. cheer up girl. there is other things in life better than ur husbands attention. these kind of men are no worth. they are blinded by work and money that they cant see. i hope and pray u find happiness soon.
take care. God Bless