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...do u rmbr my prob about my sil...
***u will be shocked to hear this..
u knwo all this while i was away from board i was in problem...u can say shocked...
u hv heard always abotu my sil...how we get along with wach other n all...
u know on friday..evenig..my sil called me...i am telling u all exact conversation btwn me n her...
she called up to tell me that she n her husband had gone to see some property n it seems they liked one...she said :
my husband liked one flat it is 1bhk...n 600 sqft (this words of her pinched me) i said but 600 sqft flat will be enough for all of us?
she said: y not in bedroom we both will sleep and in hall erst all will manage..(mark her sentence there is no mention of me n my husband..still i asked her what about us? )
she said: i am telling u this is the only golden oppurtunity for u n ur husband to stay back..when we are about to leave u n ur husband say that sorry we are not coming with u ..n we want to stay here ..(which is a house on rent) as we cant live in hall...
by this time i was completely cold n my bp shot up..still i ddnt lose my temper n asked her ..what about kitchen ? cant we convert the kitchen n bedroom for us n a small kitchen in hall ...she said: ccccchhhhhheeeeee that will spoil my houses interior ...its better u stay here...
i was shocked....

am not about scared of my sil' s plans..or insecrure ...coz i know it wont happen..
but look at my sil?
i am the one who saved her couple of times from her husband..whn the entier family ddtn even bother to stop the fight ...n helped her so much ...whn she was unwell i did wall the work without any complkain...
she turned out to be so mean? i am shocked...***

my sil spoke to my mil that they hv liked one flat ..my mil asked her how big it is ..she said 1bhk...n 600sqft...she kept quite she said how big is bdrm? my sil ddnt answer anything ..my fil imme said let the size be anything we will put a partition in btwn for 2 couples..(that is my husband ...i ...n for my bi n sil)..
she was zapped...she ddnt even take them to show the house...its not easy to move from that house..i was laughing on her coz i know one thing no matter how much my mil has harassed me ...but she cant stay wihtout me...coz she herself knows no one will take care of her...right now i too dont want her..
whereas..as said by ritika....n others ...i kept my mouth shut i ddnt react at all...coz i know just as u peopple said..it will be like pancho ungli ghee mein kind of a situtation for me...
let them go...let them do whatever they want now i wont stop them at all....i am not at all in loss
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thnks for all ur supoort whn i was feeling very lonely..n upset
sss replied. hi gg,
all the best to you.i hope all is well at your end.
i am in a dilemma right now and i want to share the same.
i live with my hubby,1&1/2 yr old baby and bil.bil is working.it was with my full support that my bil came to stay with us.actually mil wanted him to come here and try for a job and told me the same(and not to her own son,i think she wanted my approval).and i was only happy to welcome him here.actually i asked my husband to call my bil here so that he can search for a job.now for past 2 yrs he is here and working.sometimes i get irritated when my hubby spend more time with him and tend to nelect me and this cause fights.but not much problems.now my inlaws also want to come and stay with us.and mil indirectly tell me the same(again not to my husband).she misses her grand son and both of her sons.in-laws are alone in another city.initially they couldnt move b' cause of fil' s job.now that he is retred they can come here.again i welcomed her and told,mamma why dont you come and stay with us.even my son will be happy and get company when we all leave for work.presently we have maids at home to look after him.now after welcoming them(most probably they will come),i am not sure how will i manage things.when all of them are together they enjoy it and i tend to feel like an outsider.somehow i dont enjoy much.
what do you think?am i right in what i did?i would like to add that my in-laws are nice people and til now i dont have any problem with them.but i never stayed with them for long. sr replied. Hi

Is it not possible to send your MIL and FIL to stay with your SIL and BIL?
Put these ideas in your MIL' s head.. praise the flat and say how your MIL would enjoy living there...
Then you can live in peace. Dd replied. Hi gg,

I am really happy for u.