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Hi.I' m a Indian Hindu girl married last year in Delhi & then went to UAE after marriage.My husband who is the only child of his over possessive parents sends them a major part of his monthly salary, who control his money like hell & are hypersensitive that I may stop him from sending money in future.I came to India in between and did further studies.My husband paid almost 50,000/- Rs. for my studies.Now I have found a job in the UAE.But now my husband & my in-laws are forcing me to also send them a big part of my own monthly income while I wish to financially support my own parents who are facing financial difficulties.This is causing tensions & my in-laws say that since my husband spent on my education,so only he & my in-laws have the right over my earnings.My husband says that if I support my parents,he will never spend money on me in future.I want to add that my husband holds a joint account with my father-in-law in India from where money was funded for my studies.

I want to know if I' m legally bound to send my monthly earnings to parent in-laws?What does the law say?Please advise.I' m sad.If we have any lawyers on this board,please advise. hi replied. hi prachi
i can understand your situation friend. but you know, clear your mind and think, if your inlaws or anybody except your parents loaned you money just give them back with bank interest. your obligation (if they think you have any) is over. you can move ahead. dear friend life is like this. if you are going to worry about this and become emotional and sensitive you will be the only one suffereing. so be practical. move ahead girl. give them the mponey back and be happy and secure your life and do what is right for you. it is your life girl. Malini replied. Hi,

I can understand your circumstances.

a) I think your husband actually made an investment by spending money for your studies because, he knows you would work at UAE after your studies and he can see good returns as the salary at UAE is good. Your husband and inlaws could have discussed about this and allow you to further studies.
Fist of all you have to understand this.

b)I think you should have told your husband (before you go to further your studies) that when you started working you want to help your parents.

c)You have an option, if this is the case, tell them that you are not going to work. better still.