Hi All
I am too upset to talk to anybody,but think you all can comfort me.I got pregnent in Nov 2004,it was a planned one so i went for all pre concive tests & every thing was good with me ,so we went ahead.this was my first one.I went for my first sonogram on 16th Dec & my Gyn could see a very small sac.She sent me to a specilist,& he could see a small sac with some activity in it,he told us to wait for a couple of weeks before the next sonogram.No one suspected anything wrong and told me it can be the case of late ovulation as they could see the sac & the foetus.the next week I had a little headace & went to my Gyn,she checked me just casually,but suspected something was not good.she could not see any further growth .She suggested me to go for another sonogram to another specialist & for hcg blood test every 48 hours.The hcg was preety high but reduced in subsecuent days,I was devasted by the very thought of something going wrong.But my next sonogram showed that I had twins so everyone thought its good to wait & monitor.I had my hopes back.The other week my Gyn sent me again to a perinatel specialist & we found out that The feotus did not grow after 6 weeks.He suggested D&C.As I did not have any bleeding or even spotting I was not believing that this has happened.My Gyn Scheduled my D & E and a night before gave me a tablet to insert in my vegina to start the process.The next day I had my procedure & every thing ended on Jan 13th 2005.I was in my 11th week.I still cant sleep & have nightmares of the operation room & doc' taking away my baby.I feel by taking that tablet the night before ,I killed my own baby.My baby did not leave me,I told her to go.I can still feel her around me.Its really very hard to cope up with this.
Gudiya ranju replied. Hi Gudiya,Sonu,Sudha
I just experienced what you went thru on May 16th 2005. I was diagnosed as pregnant on April 11th. But in the scan done in the 9th week, showed only a gestational sac. Again, the doctors thought its because my periods were irregular. Another scan 2 weeks later on may 14th showed no improvement, and the doc scheduled a D&C on May 16th.

I hope by now all of you have overcome your grief. Iam struggling with mine. My mother and mom-in-law are here with me, so they are taking good care of me. My husband is also very supportive. The doctor showed him the fetus after the procedure. He broke down and the doctor had to pacify him.

I too felt if I had spotted naturally instead of having to undergo a D&C it would have made me feel better. But in a missed abortion the placenta is growing and so we wont know and we cannot detect it w/o a scan, and by then we are already late into the first trimester.
Its just nature's way of weeding out the bad seed.

I too sometimes wake up in the middle of the night and think about my baby and cry silently. We should grieve. Not doing that will cause more harm to us. But again, soon we will think of the beautiful future that is to come. The doctor asked me to try again after 6 months, and she strongly advised me to take folic acid 3 months before that.

We can hope and pray for the best. Keep the faith. God is with us. shalu replied. Hello ,gudiya
One thing i want to tell you that ''GOD IS WITH YOU'' AND U WILL BLESSED WITH HEALTHY BABY.BUT U HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF UR HEALTH.
SHALU Sonu replied. It happened with me also. It's more common when you conceive twins, I guess. Probably your body is not ready for the twins. Sometimes it happens due to Chromosomonal abnormalities. That does not mean that there is anything wrong with you or your husband, its just that this baby was not in your fate. Don't blame anyone as you won't get anything out of it except grief. Your baby was not fully developed when your Doctor told you about fetus demise, hence let it go. I know how it feels but start taking good care of yourself, go for a massage or a facial, keep yourself cool and calm, excercise ( that will reduce stress), take balanced diet, in short, focus on you and people around you who want to see you happy . Believe me, in couple of months you will overcome the grief and start planning another baby who when delivered would be a healthy baby without any disorders and one who would be really yours and would be there to stay. Wouldn't that be amazing? Sudha replied. Dear Gudia,

I am very sorry to hear this. Please don't blame yourself for anything. I can understand how you are feeling as I have been in that phase 6month back. In my case 1st we have seen Heart rate low, then came to normal and then everything finished and could not make out what went wrong. Infact even I carried that baby for 5weeks without knowing that he/she was no more.

But as Dr. and specialist on board mentioned that reasons of this kind miscarriage could be very natural and not because of any of our fault. So please don't think nagative. You can wait for 2-3 period to go and plan for baby again. Hopefully everything will go fine this time.

With love...
Sudha