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my FIL is a widower,(mil passes away b coz ofdieseas) now he is staying alone(for everthing he kepy maid and he is well also)no financial pro.we are living 2 km far from him.his step mother and brothers fly is his neibhour.(so i void of staying with him) and my mil kept me seperately when she was alive(imm after marriage) now he is expecting us to go and stay with him(he isa man who consider women to take care of children ,for cooking and for nothing) he dont want me to go out with my hus,dont talk before him, )with my hus),viz a women with no opinion of her own. and iam a girl who is having a good perception of life.(which he need) i should not watch t.v.(even thoug we are living in another house) and my hus dont have opinion of his own. i should not put my son in abig school(i have to put him in thre school where my hus and my bil learnt) he dony like my presence also. nobody having the guts to talk againtst him
by living amonst him is a big pro.he have drinking habbit also(which i cannot digest,)now he is having another son ,he is saying to all servents and villegers that i am not taking care of him(daily iam trying to catch him but he is not attending the call when he saw my no)ie the cook is only for the mor and for evening he need son tiiffine(for which iam giving a call)i and my hus belong to same villege.the pro is that,the people who they meet me looks me wwith the same impression.my bil dont want to keep his would be wife(ie he ias a bachelor)here and he want to go abroad.now my doubt is if he ask me to come and stay with him ,how should i manage this(i would talk anything against my fil even though iam not a good daughter in law accordin 2 him .pls frds give a good answer nits replied. Look you cant expect ppl of ur fil' s age to change, particularly is he has this old view points (thinking less of women) Such ppl can never change.
It seems ur hubby doesnt ve problem with you, then you just do what you think is right. if someone asks abt you not treating ur Fil well, then you tell them you do whatever you can.
PPl always find fault on others, dont let anything bother you if u ve an understanding Hubby.. Ritika replied. Since you are staying only 2 km away, I don' t see why you have to go and stay with him.

I think your MIL was a very shrewed lady who knew her husband' s nature and thus wanted to avoid fights and bickerings later on.

When your FIL asks you to come and stay with him, just tell him that its not possible as you are settled in your own home. Your child has made friends near by or his school is nearby and so on.

In addition, why don' t you ask your husband to deal with your FIL? But whatever happens, my sincere advise would be to keep away from this abusive old man.