My baby is 10.5 months. I am a housewife. I live in a joint family. I feel very frustrated and depressed all the time staying in the house doing all the house work. I want to be financially independant for both my baby' s and my sake since all the money that my hubby earns is controlled by my in-laws. Though I have been married for nearly 2 years and however hard I try to adjust with them, they dont cooperate with me. They try their level best to hurt me in all the ways possible everyday. My hubby doesnt have the guts to take my side in front of them. He just obeys their orders.

They are not happy with my decision to go to work since it will make me independant. I have got a job offer but I cant decide what to do about my baby. My MIL doesnt answer me propery at all if i ask her is it ok if i keep a maid in the house to do all the work plus look after the baby. My FIL says me to leave the baby in the house and keep a maid. But my MIL is the boss of the house and she finds faults with all the servants. She keeps shouting at the servants and can never adjust with them plus make them do extra work and pays them less.

Can somebody please give me some suggestions about what to do. If I leave my baby in the day care, will they look after it properly? Will they give food properly? I just cant decide. Plese help me urgently...
remya replied. hai. do some job frm home itself. then u can take care of ur kid and earn money, after 1-11/2 yr ur kid will start schooling, then u can go for a full fledged one. ami correct! xyz replied. I am also a mother of 10 month old baby wrking also . MIL is there at home to take care but nw a days she is behaving very strangely she wants to go back to native and want to take my baby also but I am not ready for that lot of tension for creche what to do how to handle realyy dont know pritee replied. hi ...

i agree with w. its the same. MILs r the boss !

i re-joined my work after my child was 1 year but my MIL & hubby were not happy with my decision. but i wanted to work ... as i was depressed & frustrated at home. full day bored. i had become so DUMB !

guess wat, the fun started after i joined work, one after the other maids i got ran away !!! leaving me with no solution but being at the mercy of my MIL who made my life hell.

lots of clashes began at home & dejectedly i quit..... m back to DUMB

i wont suggest option of day care to parents unless the child is old enough to talk.

its a tough decision, have gone through it. vv replied. don' t worry.. its all the same everywhere. i would suggest you start leavin the kid with your inlaws and try a maid too (just so your mil doesn' t have too much work). if it doesn' t work well later you can decide a creche. it will only aggrevate ur inlaw' s tension if u don' t leave the kid with them initially. later on, if u find its not working, u can move the kid to creche. for that, now itself, you give a message to them that, u will put her/him in the creche after the kid grows to say 1.5 years or so, just to play it safe. i think u hv taken a right decision to go to work. more than the financial independence, i think it would also help u get to socialize with ppl in order to make a better living for ur kid. but yes, choose the right job which gives enough time for your kid too. take care buddy..