Hi,
My mom will be coming here (US) for my delivery. I want to know one thing - after delivery is it a good idea to sleep with my mom at my side for sometime or should I sleep with my husband only. Few of my friends told me that when their moms came, they slept with their mom for sometime as it would be difficult to get up at nights with the stitiches and all and mom will be able to hand baby at nights and we will get some rest. And few of them say that being with husbands at night is good as husband and baby will get time to bond and husbands will also know how it is having a baby and getting up at nights. But I feel it will be tough on hubby to get up at nights and then go to work next morning. What r u girls planning? Pls advise soon. Thx for ur help in advance. momTo2 replied. This is what I did with my first son and what I plan to do with this one also. My baby and I slept alone in one room. The reason I did not want my mother there was because it didn't make sense having both of us exhausted during the day. This way she was able to cook and take care of the baby during the day while I napped and rested from being up most of the night. As for my husband, he didn't sleep with us during the week but he did during the weekend. I don't think that sleeping with the baby is the only way to bond. Realistically, how much bonding can you really do when you are barely awake. They can bond just fine with the baby during the day and on weekends.
Having said all that, you have to try and see what works best for you.

Take Care,
Kalpana manvi replied. I haven't seen u around before but here's what i plan to do.Having the daddy 'to be' around is good bcos he will bond&learn to take care of the newborn.But since my husband goes to work&school&has exams during my due date[can u imagine]mostly until the first few wks if my mom comes she may sleep with me to help until i have fully recovered.
But iam not fixed on anything if my hubby is excited&wants to sleep with the baby i would love that.Well they will get physically exhausted but isn't that part of the excitement taking the new role as parents.
Don't be fixated&make decisons before hand just see how it works.If your husband is fine with it let your mom help u in the beginning otherwise both of u take turns&handle the baby.
Gluck!!