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Waiting to try:Ready for my second one! Need advice!

2002-07-28

Name: New comer Hi Net friends,

Right now, I have a 2.4 yrs old little girl and would like to have a boy as my second child. As we both (my hubby and me) agree that the gap between them should be more than 3 - 3.5 yrs, I am ready to go for my second this year.

The only thing which is bothering me a lot is that I have a small syst kind of thing on my back (actually on my lower back , right before my butt area)which grows in size every few days or every week and breaks out with very little blood. Then it seems to be dried nothing wrong but then again in a week or so it starts to grow bigger and it repeats.

When I checked my Dermatologist for this I was told that this is not a pimple, this is a syst. This needs to be removed completely by a small surgery. Also added this is not an emergency thing. But that's the only way to get rid of it.

As I wanted have my second one now, I don't knoe whether to postpone this or take an immediate action. I am totally confused. Because seeing a doctor and then a surgery sepcialist and get that removed, healing time will take atleast 2-3 months. Which will make us go behind in our baby plans. I mean the second one can be more than 3.5 yrs gaped. But at the other times I think I should be perfectly OK to get pregant and have baby as this small syst may become very big and may give more problems unlike now.

What should I do? Dear friends, your advice is required? Please reply.Thanks in advance.

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Hi Net friends,

Right now, I have a 2.4 yrs old little girl and would like to have a boy as my second child. As we both (my hubby and me) agree that the gap between them should be more than 3 - 3.5 yrs, I am ready to go for my second this year.

The only thing which is bothering me a lot is that I have a small syst kind of thing on my back (actually on my lower back , right before my butt area)which grows in size every few days or every week and breaks out with very little blood. Then it seems to be dried nothing wrong but then again in a week or so it starts to grow bigger and it repeats.

When I checked my Dermatologist for this I was told that this is not a pimple, this is a syst. This needs to be removed completely by a small surgery. Also added this is not an emergency thing. But that's the only way to get rid of it.

As I wanted have my second one now, I don't knoe whether to postpone this or take an immediate action. I am totally confused. Because seeing a doctor and then a surgery sepcialist and get that removed, healing time will take atleast 2-3 months. Which will make us go behind in our baby plans. I mean the second one can be more than 3.5 yrs gaped. But at the other times I think I should be perfectly OK to get pregant and have baby as this small syst may become very big and may give more problems unlike now.

What should I do? Dear friends, your advice is required? Please reply.Thanks in advance.
nicemom replied. hi new comer,
why don't you go ahead with the surgery first. i think a cyst surgery is a minor one. the healing period is very short. in that way, you will be tension -free and have your baby. what if the cyst re-appears and troubles you with pain ?
as for the 2nd baby....if alls weel in life, financilaly and emotionally. just go ahead for the 2nd baby. i'm sure your daughter is already asking you for one. at this age most kids do that. my daughter does that all the time. as you said 3-3 1/2 yrs gap is just right betw. sibblings.
all the best and keep in touch New comer replied. The first paragraph should read like , \";Me and my hubby think that the gap between the two kids shouldn't be more than 3 - 3.5 yrs. \";.

2002-07-29

Name: nicemom
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go ahead

hi new comer,
why don't you go ahead with the surgery first. i think a cyst surgery is a minor one. the healing period is very short. in that way, you will be tension -free and have your baby. what if the cyst re-appears and troubles you with pain ?
as for the 2nd baby....if alls weel in life, financilaly and emotionally. just go ahead for the 2nd baby. i'm sure your daughter is already asking you for one. at this age most kids do that. my daughter does that all the time. as you said 3-3 1/2 yrs gap is just right betw. sibblings.
all the best and keep in touch

2002-07-30

Name: New Friend
Subject:

Thanks for your advice!

Hi Nicemom,

First of all let me say thanks for your advice. This is exactly what my husband suggested me when I was confused. Having a happy and worry-free mind is the key to have a new baby.

From your message, I think you too have a little one and may be you are planning for your second one now. Anyway, if you are good luck to you. I was happy to read your input on the chinese calander too. It's good to have a friend like you. Thanks again.

Any advice on planning for a baby boy is appreciated. Bye!

2002-07-28

Name: New comer
Subject:

A small correction!

The first paragraph should read like , \";Me and my hubby think that the gap between the two kids shouldn't be more than 3 - 3.5 yrs. \";.

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