Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Well, it is strange to find a guy here isn't it? But I have been married now for 8 months and still havent got it straight, that when is the right time to become a father. I, myself am 25 and my wife is 24. I and my wife had decided that we would plan after 2 years, since we both need time to settle down and only then have a baby, though we both love children and I think I am well to do along with my family, though tensions do come and go as in life. But many have been advising us to have the first baby as soon as possible and plan only for the second baby. I am so confused, I dont know, can you please suggest what should be done? Deepa Rajpal replied. hi so have u finally planed a baby or u are still in 2 minds
my husband has the same problem he is 25 and he thinks he is too young to have a kid!!!we also have been married 1 year now and going through this site saw ur question and it got a smile on my face!!for i thought only we had this problem!of deciding whether r we big enough for a kid . geetha replied. U r the best judge of ur life... So go for it when u feel in ur heart & mind that both u and ur wife r ready for it!!!!
friend replied. Hi Chints,

Urs is a very difficult question to answer. This varies from couple to couple. While some find happiness in having a baby as soon as they get married whether they r settled or no, others prefer to wait till they r settled and then have a baby. So it entirely depends on u. See if u r mentally prepared for the baby. Also is ur wife mentally and physically prepared for the baby. Physically means she should be healthy, have no problems (its better for her to get a full check up done before planning) and also should have the energy to take care of the baby. Also check regarding money. Having a baby certainly requires a little bit of extra expense. If u both r working, can u afford to keep the baby in a creche or no? Also a baby means spending a little less time with each other, the mothers time will be occupied with the new baby, so r u prepared for that. I've read about husbands getting frustrated on their wife just because she's giving her whole attention to the new born baby, but that is her responsibility. So atleast for a few months she will be just for herself and her baby, so U must be prepared for that. U have to support her and also help her in those times. R u prepared for that?
U have written that u want to settle down first, so think about it. Tensions r there in every family, every couple have some or the other tensions, so just make sure that the tensions r not such that will affect u more after the baby arrives. If not, then its okay because there's not a single person in this world without a little bit of tension. But still life goes on. So make sure of each and every thing and then decide about the baby. If u feel u r well settled and r physically and mentally prepared, then u can go ahead. But make sure of everything, as once the baby comes, life changes a lot. All the best and let me know what have u guys decided. Bye.