Hello everyone. I felt the need to share my grief with you, if you don't want to get upset, don't read further.
My mum's youngest brother, my mama met with a car accident on last thursday and passed away at the same time! He was only in his early forties and left behind two teenage sons (12 and 16), who suddenly sound grown up. My mama mami had a childhood romance since mami was 9 yrs of age...she is devastated but putting a brave face for her kids. When I spoke to her she was more concerned about me looking after my health cause of the baby.
My hubby and mama shared the same b'day, both are november born scorpios! Husband feels as if half of him has gone! And isn't it ironic that I am due in Nov too! I am still in shock, missing family and feeling so low, surely baby could have come in happier times! Mixed feelings about how everyone would react seeing the baby.
My mum is not sure if she has the heart to come over to see me, as planned. She was about to go for her visa interview when this all happened. I won't expect her to come over if she is not feeling up to it, though I know deep down she rather be here with me, but for her my mama was like her own kid, being the youngest brother.
Sorry to have burdened you with the thoughts but I feel very low n wanted to share with you all.
Thanks for listening.
Simmi Ritu replied. Hi Simmi,

Really sorry to hear about this loss in your family. My father passed away two years back in the same way in an accident when he was 60. It was so sudden and unbelieveable that we didn't even know how to react to it..Infact I was in Australia and left the next day for the last rites. But even today since I have been staying away from them for a while, at times I actually forget he is not there, and sometimes while talking about my family to friends i refer to my mom as mummy papa without realising he is not there..

Your mami will need a lot of support and strength at this point in time. She will need friends and relatives who make her realise her inner strength and her capability to deal with this situation. My mom was lucky that both her kids were settled married etc. But still she is alone in India as my brother is in Australia as well. and two years later today I really admire her for having become a very strong and independent person that she never was.

I pray to God that he gives all the strength to your mami and her kids to handle this situation. And remember just like good times , bad times also never last.

You pls take care of your health and I am sure God will take care of everything.

Ritu Avi replied. Simmi, so sorry to hear about your uncle... am sure it is quite hard on you and your family....and especially hard on you mami and their two very young sons......

My aunt (mom's sis), who is my god mother and someone I've been very close to all my life hasn't been doing well for more than a year now and a couple of weeks back has been admitted to the hospital and has been in ICU ever since... the docs have given up hope on her and it's been quite hard on us.. ..Seeing (hearing about, in my case) someone you love being in such pain is surely hard on everyone... but I've been trying to keep my spirits up for a long time now, not for myself but for the little one.. and so is my mom for my sake......

Simmi, we do need try hard to keep ourselves from getting stressed out at times like these.. not for ourselves but for our babies. Like Vindhya said, we are all here to support you, so feel free to talk whenever you want to..

Keep the faith Simmi replied. Thank you so much for your support and wishes. It means the world to me to have such lovely people to share my sorrow with. God bless you all.
Love,
Simmi Vindhya replied. Hi Simmi,

I feel very sorry to hear about the incident, it is very tragic. Please convey my condolenses to your beloved mama's family. Hope God gives the young boys all the support & courage they need.

Hope you continue to take care of yourself and the baby. Talk to mom what she thinks would be good, whether to come now or later. I am sure your husband and friends would be there to help you at this time.

Yes, try to divert your mind. I know it's hard, but do it for the baby. Be positive and keep the faith.

We are here to give each other moral support, don't ever hesitate.

Take care,
Vindhya hemani replied. i acn totally understand your situation , my sister gave birth to her daughter on my mothers chautha- just 2 days had passed since she had gone and suddenly!we looked at the child as her blessings and determined to raise her with teh best of love and care
god bless and have a steel like dtermination taht u will give birthg to a haelthy baby and a i hope ur mother can be with u Arshiya replied. Hi Simmi,

I am really very sorry to hear this tragic news. I know it must be really tough to handle this situation for your specially at this stage. But, be strong and don't get depressed and try not to think about it a lot. Also, try talking to your mother a lot over the phone just to console her. Even if she can't make it to your place try diverting her mind somehow.
Also, you can surely rely on this board to share your feelings and thoughts, we are all here to support you.

Arshiya Priya replied. Simmi,
My condolenses to you and your family. Tragic situations are never easy to handle...much less when they precede the anticipated happy occasions. I'm sure your mom would want to be with you, inspite of everything. Give her some time to come to terms with the loss...
Be strong for everyone in your family as well as for yourself...you have to take care of yourself too!
Peace be with all you.
Priya hetal replied. Hi simmi,

My God..! this is very sad news for you and your family. only 6 and 12 years child so very young kids, God also needed good people above God will give shanti to his soul The birth and death is not in any one hand
i understand what your family suffer but please do not think about that too much that will affect your baby so please consentrate otherthings and your mummy also very upset so u may think to change the program but the best thing is u call your mummy here so u can divert your mummy mind
take care Vandana replied. Hi Simmi

Very sorry about the tragic incident, it sure must be tough times for you and your family right now. God bless the departed soul and I will pray for you all to find the strength to get through this.
I know it is difficult, but you have to find a way to overcome this for your little one's sake. Your emotions will reflect directly on the baby, you have been so good and careful all through the pregnancy, just few more days left. So try not to delve your thoughts too much on this, I'm sure your family would want the same. I feel your Mom would still love to come visit you, just give her some time to overcome this tragedy.

And do not hesitate to share your thoughts and feelings here, we are all here to support each other.

God bless
Vandana Anita replied. Hi Simmi:

Please accept my condolences.It must be a big shock for you and your family.May God bestow strength on u and ur family to tide over this tragic phase.
Particularly in your delicate stage, u must not think too deeply abt it.My sister also lost her sis-in-law(who was only 30 yrs old) when she was eight months pregnant.But she had to handle it strongly because of her condition.
I know its easier said than done.But pls don't get too depressed.
I am sure ur husband will be providing u great support now.
Take care and pls don't think abt burdening us, we are all there to share our joys and sorrows.

bye,
anita