Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

oh my god i am PETRIFIED of labour pains. i have been married for five years and am just too scared to conceive. im thinking of planning a baby finally, but am still scared! is labour really that painful? nupur replied. I am totally agree with you,but if you want to conceive a baby than i think you have to bear this pain.But don' t worry ,after having a baby you will forget every pain.
\" Good luck\" Punky replied. I agree with your fear. I am pertrified myself but you know you are not the only woman who will have gone through this pain so you do know that everything will be ok if you put your Trust in God. jahanara replied. i was another scared mother but do not worry, faith solves all problems. if you have faith in God, the labour time will pass before you realise it. relaxation is the word. bhavana replied. I was so scared when I became pregnant! My labour lasted just five hours and though the pain was bad, I couldnt believe I had been so scared! And after 5 hours I had a lovely daughter. Worth every minute of pain! Now Im pregnant again and labour pain is not at all something Im nervous about. tanaz replied. I have have been married for 4 years now, and am 29. My husband wants to start a family but i too am just tooo scared to get pregnant -so i completely empathize with you! PArul; replied. Labor is nopt that bad. its worth it when at the end youll be holding a beautiful baby in your arms. nav replied. God is there Dont worry. Pain only for some time. After that you are holding a nice baby in your hands. Namitha replied. I had a difficult 8th month with high BP and constant monitoring by ultrasound and bed rest etc. I had gone to my parents house then, and as is the tradition I had many visitors, each one of them plying me with goodies and giving me pep talks and telling me incidents in their lives. Everybody has some incident or the other to relate. The main message was that things will be ok and you have our support. I can say it really helped to pep up my spirits. Eventually, the baby came 3 weeks early and I did not have time to worry about pains. WIth abt 3hrs of labour, I spent only 5 minutes in the delivery room. So I guess I was lucky. Think positive thoughts, meet people who are a good influence, practical without inducing fear in you. Be aware of the science of what will go on, but dont delve too deep into it during pregnancy at least. And get the support of your family. I had a wonderful OBG for seven months who was more like a psychologist. That helped a lot too. It was our joke that she would keep asking me what my latest worry was, and miraculously after spending half an hour with her, it disappeared. Also try not to switch doctors at a later stage, since most doctors have their own system and standards of doing things and sometimes require tests to be repeated. Eventually with hindsight I feel a dragon of a doctor is sometimes better than an over-friendly one. neena replied. IS IT TRUE BEFORE GOING INTO LABOUR ONE MUST HAVE SOMETHING HOT TO DRINK AND TAKE A HOT BATH? sonal replied. I too am married for 3 years and still dont have a chiid. I too have always been very scared of labour pains and all that follows with a delivery of a baby. Except that my desire to hold my own child in my arms, hug it and feel like a mom is so strong that I dont let myself get affected by the thought of labour pains!!:- dr.neetha.sanjay replied. dear pratibha,
Even though being scared of labour pains is very normal ,it shows how ignorant you are about the great phenomena of giving birth.As a woman you should realize your good fortune of possessing this GREAT gift of bringing your baby into this world .
The first thing to do is try to understand the entire concept of pregnancy and childbirth.There is a good book on pregnancy by GORDON BOURNE.This book was a blessing to me during my two pregnancies and helped me to enjoy the motherhood as all my worries would disappear once i cleared my doubts.
Secondly dont listen to anyone except your mom and gynaecologist.Your friends and relatives will have loads of horrifying experiences of their own, eventually resulting in anxiety and fear.
i can tell you from my own experience that labour pain is really a contraction which is very similar to those you experience during your periods in an exaggerated form.And remember ,it is just for a short time and i can assure you that the minute you see your baby, you will realize what a wonderful person you are!! Have faith in god and science.Today there are various methods to lessen your pain like simple relaxation and deep breathing to regional anaesthesiaby which you will feel numbness from your waist downwards.
Faith in your own ability as well as confidence in those looking after you PLUS good knowledge of whats happening will give you a very comfortable labour.
And if you have wonderful husband like mine whos very understanding and supportive and be there for you to share your every pain and discomfort, what more can you ask for!!.
just relax and be ready for it.and remember this is the only chance you get to fuss and pamper and bring the entire world to your feet!!